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[–]JambiChick 20 points21 points22 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
So basically, she was having second thoughts(for whatever reason) and the whole virus story was her way of getting out of the plan. However, she changed her mind back so that's what counts lol.
Why was she having second thoughts?? Well, that could be so many things. Maybe she wasn't sure she wanted to have sex with you. Maybe she has anxiety you've never noticed. Maybe she thought her period would be over by that night but isn't as sure now. Maybe you were a backup plan. Maybe her roommate is controlling & tried bullying her into not having anyone over. I could go on & on lol.
Whatever you do, try not to jump to conclusions that you were a 2nd option. It's possible, but none of us have any proof of that and clearly there could be so many reasons.
[–]InternationalBorder9 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I think this is probably it.
Only other option I can think of is maybe she wanted to see how he would react to her cancelling plans. If he freaked out etc. Testing in a way
[–]coming2grips 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Sh1t testing is a thing, really. Also, it's often done purely at the direction of "friends"
[–]InternationalBorder9 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yep I agree its definitely a thing
[–]gordons_vodka_lillet 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Don't assume that she plays or games or "tests" you either. It'll make you want to outplay her, which is unnecessary.
I didn't assume anything. OP was asking what she was doing so I said that among other things is what it could of been, which it could of.
Regardless of what it was OP handled it well just say 'ok no problem' and not let it bother you.
[–]SomeEmotion3 35 points36 points37 points 5 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
She was having a second plan but it didn't work out so she went back to you. So basically you're just her back up plan lol
[–]midnight_toker22 15 points16 points17 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This is the reason. She had something “better” in the works, but it fell through.
No reason you can’t still go on your date and try to get laid, but just know that she only sees you as a way to kill time when she doesn’t have “real” dates in her calendar.
Definitely don’t pay for her dinner.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Damn. These bitches, man.
[–]YaGoiRoot 5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
I wouldn’t make such negative definitive assumptions without more concrete facts. Not saying that this isn’t the case, but assuming that it is based only on this information is not helpful.
[–]Gimmeabeerandamop 5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Well, this lump in the sidewalk LOOKS like dog shit, and SMELLS like dog shit, but I don’t want to ASSUME it’s dogshit without tasting it first, lest I be labeled a “negative thinker”
[–]YaGoiRoot -1 points0 points1 point 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
“Ah yes, you may be trying to play me, so I will assume you’re an asshole and don’t care about me.
No my own new negative view of you won’t impact our relationship in any way, why do you ask?”
[–]Gimmeabeerandamop -4 points-3 points-2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Enjoy your knighthood, virgin!
[–]SomeEmotion3 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Well, OP posted it on reddit for people's opinions about the case. Do you think any of us have any fucking idea about the girl he's talking about. Definitely not, so it's all about assuming here. And in the matter of fact, you are ASSUMING me making such a negative assumption then you are nothing better than me so quit it you hypocrite. Didn't say it's the fact, just telling him what I thought about that matter, not necessary being helpful either!
[–]YaGoiRoot -3 points-2 points-1 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sure pal
[–]crew6dawg0 3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sounds like the other guy she was more interested in flaked
[–]AlwaysLearningWork 3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Probably she was just unsure about you. You handled it pretty well, but she might flake or change her mind in the end. Just handle it like a champ and you'll be fine I guess.
[–]the_world_is_yours69 -3 points-2 points-1 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Probably thought about bailing maybe? Idk, girls are impossible to read lol. If she does end up hanging out with you then that's all that matters.
yup
[–]Alpha-Charlie-Romeo 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Doesn't matter. She gave the all clear, go and have fun
[–]boricuanacho71 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Idk bro. Alot of shit couldve happened. Prob your reaction to her canceling made her rethink. You didnt get pissed or freak out which is good. Go over there for some wine bro. You already know what wine means. Have fun
[–]all_worcestershire 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Regardless of it all you have an opportunity to wine and dine her. Make it count and leave the rest to chance.
[–]meehowski 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She was having second thoughts. You got hit with a shit test and passed. Congratulations! Proceed to the next stage.
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