First, I'm not from the US. I come from Eastern Europe, but redpill is also popular here, more and more recently. I am also a woman.
There is one specific thing about this "ideology" that I find super toxic and that makes people (including women) REALLY shallow.
I'll explain what it's about. According to redpill, women are driven by hypergamy, we choose men based on their appearance, status and wealth. At the same time, redpillers often criticize and even ostracize women for such behavior, they believe that we are shallow and emotionless, and we treat relationships as business relationships. Many incels talk as if they wanted things to be different, that women would not be so "shallow" and appreciate character, and would not reject men because of their height or receding chin, or low earnings.
But this is only FUCKING in theory, because when incels are faced with the fact that such women EXIST and that not all of us look at appearance, earnings or height, it literally begins to lower the self-esteem of these women...
I am that kind of woman. My fiancé doesn't look like a model. He is obese, has receding hairline and doesn't earn much (I don't earn much either). I chose him because of his character and I'm tired of hearing that:
-there must be something wrong with me
-I must be mentally ill
-I must be ugly
-I must be desperate
-I must have low value on the sexual market
Do you know what this leads to? If I ever have to break up with my partner, I will really ONLY look for men with model looks and high earnings for a relationship, because I DON'T want to be perceived as desperate and shamed for having a normal partner....
If you want women or some of them to appreciate men for their personality, please DON'T OSTRACCISE those who already do it, because the fact that my friend has a very handsome husband does not make her any better as a person than me...