What are the best ways to open after a match on a dating app to lead to a date/hookup

m4tchb0x · 2024-05-22T14:04:20+00:00

I been going with just saying lets grab a drink/bite as my first message and its been working better then i expected. I find it helps weed out the unsure girls. Plus they already matched with you so why waste time. Even got some compliments of how nice it is to just meet up and get to know each other that way.

TripleDigitNomad · 2024-05-22T13:16:18+00:00

Try this messaging routine.

Significant-Report16 · 2024-05-23T05:01:47+00:00

It depends on her level of interest. A match does not mean interest, she could just be matching with you for validation or because she is bored. You want to screen these "time-wasters" out.

Whether or not you actually end up meeting up with her depends on her level of interest and her intentions.

I've found that with girls that actually end up meeting up with me, the conversations were effortless and they were super easy to make plans with. Most girls that gave me a hard time typically did not fare well in the end, they either flaked or the date did not go very well.

Basically, if she is interested, you can say almost anything and she'll meet up with you. If not, there's not much you can say that'll change her mind. Obviously, there will be some in the middle area. This is where you cut to the chase and ask her out within the first 15-20 messages. Figure out what she likes. Then based off that, ask her if she has done an activity or tried a certain bar/restaurant before. Then go off that and suggest you go together - the key here is the suggest, rather than ask. It's harder to turn down a suggestion rather than a yes/no question. If she is not interested, she'll probably ghost at this point. Cut your losses.

TheCallOfBoooty · 2024-05-22T16:27:11+00:00

Don't talk about S.EX

punktfan · 2024-05-22T14:28:15+00:00

"Hey! <insert polite compliment> I'm going to <insert place> tonight for <insert exciting activity>. Do you want to join?"

Yungkodiaktheone · 2024-05-23T00:56:09+00:00

Dam girl! You look thicker than a snicker.

Disastrous-Stuff-268 · 2024-05-22T21:42:33+00:00

“Would like to go grab some decent food? The dessert is my balls!”

enricoferrari98 · 2024-05-22T13:13:26+00:00

Send a dick pic

appolonysian · 2024-05-24T02:22:47+00:00

Open the convo however seems appropriate and then ask her out within the first 3 - 5 messages. If they’re feeling it, they’re feeling it; if not (anything but a yes), move on. You’re not gonna text your way into attraction on an app if it didn’t substantially exist to be begin with.

Be direct about asking them out and you don’t even need to phrase it like a question. “You seem cool. Let’s go do X activity…”

TRTGymBro1 · 2024-05-22T15:40:05+00:00

Basically any time you do anything to "try" and get a woman, it will backfire. Your entire goal here is to get her on a date or to have a hook up. Why? Because you are horny? Go jerk off.

Why do you want a woman? Figure out why you want one and what kind of woman you want. Then stop trying to get them, trying to have sex with them, trying to date them, etc. Focus on figuring out if they bring to the table the kind of qualities you are looking for in a woman.

Then the next steps would be super natural as in "okay, I'm connecting with this girl and kind of liking her. Let's go out and see if there something more there".

Stop being so attached to an outcome

Title	What are the best ways to open after a match on a dating app to lead to a date/hookup
Author	lilrocketfyre
Upvotes	34
Comments	27
Date	May 22, 2024 12:44 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1cxzcax/what_are_the_best_ways_to_open_after_a_match_on_a/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/what-are-the-best-ways-to-open-after-a-match-on-a.1519203 https://theredarchive.com/post/1519203

Comments