My wife and I have had plenty of issues during our marriage. Her daughter, whom we had sent to the daughter's dad cause she was uncontrollable, had a child at 15. I allowed her to come back and love with us during the pandemic as the daughter was living with her dad. The dad was "married" to a woman he was basically using for housing.
Mine and my wife's relationship has had many, many issues I won't get too much into yet. But I raised my granddaughter for the last 4 years. Her dad is a good dad but is on military so can't have the baby. I have been her de facto dad and we were very close. Wife has decided that I am verbally and emotionally abusive. I admit to lots of feelings of anger as I feel she always put her daughter above me in our relationship.
Daughter has been in military boot camp last two months as she was planning to FINALLY move out.
My wife has not been investing in the relationship or house for a few months.
I did not think she'd sneak out while I was sleeping, however. The baby was at her dad's for weekend as wife's daughter is graduating from boot camp today. I was not invited nor my parents who moved across country to be closer to us just 6 months ago. I was in a frenzy wondering what was going on as no one would communicate with me. Finally she called and texted yesterday and said that she is staying with babys dad and that me and my parents are never allowed to see my granddaughter again because of how they claim I've treated my wife. The babys dad used to be on my side and said no matter what happened with me and babys mom I could always still see my granddaughter. However, now he is trying to get back with babys mom so will not communicate with me. I was a GREAT grandpa and loved her so damn much.
Now they say I can never see her again. It's like a nightmare come to life.
I just don't get how they think this is good for the baby?
But they are young. My wife says it's their decision and won't help me at all. Says I should have thought of that before treating her bad. I paid EVERY bill besides groceries and allowed her to not work for a year a couple of years ago to help her daughter take care of the baby as the daughter at that time was rough and kinda mean to the baby. It worked and now they daughter is very good with the baby.
I paid for every outing we went on and almost all the baby's programs and events.
I did so damn much for them and this is my reward. Just wanted to see what everyone thought. Once she communicated that I could never see the baby again, I actually felt better. At least I knew as opposed to the two days of not knowing what the hell is going on. She wants me to buy her out of the house so going to talk to a lawyer next Wednesday. She moved all her and the baby's shit out and said she wanted nothing else left here. Don't take the babys brand new bike or her baby gold clubs cause my dad gave them to her. Just so vindictive and hateful. I admit I did have my moments of anger and saying hurtful things. But I and her daughter never got along good and it was more like their house than mine.
So I would get so frustrated and angry with them. They also would limit my parents' interaction with the baby all the time because her daughter and my mom could not get along.
Just a total soul sucker but I'm actually happy not to have wife and stepdaughter here. Their absence is awesome. But to now never see my granddaughter again is just evil and crazy in my opinion.
I just feel they've always been dramatic and now are excited cause they made the break. What are anyone's thoughts? Sorry for rambling nature of the post. Still a bit dazed about the whole situation.

TLDR: Wife took granddaughter and left while stepdaughter in boot camp. Out of the blue says I will never see my granddaughter ever again. I was sleeping when they took everything and left.