I’m feeling strange about my entire marriage. We just had a baby that’s 2 months but from my perspective I feel like that’s no excuse.

  1. He loves calling me and seeing how I’m doing while he’s working. We would FaceTime and keep up with each other. Talk about things that was important for the house and our feelings and goals. Before he goes to work he always kissed me on my forehead when I’m asleep. Everything seems normal like that.

  2. By the time he gets home from work which is always at least a 12 hour shift minimum he no longer wants to talk. I always try to wait till after he eats to get a word out of him. He’s angry and frustrated and his attitude is not remotely like what it was over the phone. We never spend physical time together even on weekends because he’s either still working or catching up on rest. We don’t even go to church anymore or even watch online services together. We never get those important things that we talked on the phone about completed.

  3. So we had a child and everything that I said above still stands but he tries to change one diaper before going to be and spend time with the child. I on the other hand is completely neglected. I don’t even think he remembers my love language or cares. It’s quality time and physical touch. He tends to be extremely distant to the point he doesn’t look at me.

  4. When he is home resting it’s him on his phone on instagram watching video after video. He doesn’t come sit down to watch tv with me. Just watches his phone. He’s highly addicted. I tried being on his level and sending videos but he may or may not watch them. He sends me videos here and there though and I respond to them. But cell phone videos is seriously not my thing and how I see myself communicating with a person I live with. It’s not clicking.

This week we got in an argument over nothing. I didn’t like how he went about it and I always tell him my thoughts so it’s not like I don’t express myself because I ALWAYS TELL HIM HOW I FEEL. He wants to approach me when he wants to and it’s taking a toll on me mentally and emotionally. I want to tell him I need space. To think if I really want to go through this cycle with him week after week. Him not meeting expectations. Ever. My father wasn’t the best example of a husband but he was a great dad. But even my dad still did what my mother asked him to do despite work hours. I just need space while he’s here so he can see how I process and how I see myself processing while he’s around. Will I benefit more by realizing I can do this alone or I’m more happy not needing from him emotionally? Does what I even said make any sense? I want to take this week to not talk to him on the phone but just let him see our child and that’s it but nothing about me. Will he feel ok with that I wonder.