How do you guys do it?

SnooHesitations4922 · 2024-07-25T23:32:15+00:00

You have to see it as "I'm not climbing that mountain, I'm using the lift and skiing back down."

Men and women are supposed to go together easily. Guys get rejected for being a "try hard" more than anything.

MrHound325 · 2024-07-26T03:26:04+00:00

You’re on vacation. You’ll never see any of these women again. Them rejecting you means nothing to your life two weeks from now

RedbillInvestor · 2024-07-26T02:48:53+00:00

It’s just a game bro none of it matters. Have fun out there

ddrj · 2024-07-26T02:49:05+00:00

Thanks man, feels good to be recognized. When regular people find out that I go out a lot, they think it's all just for fun and I'm having the time of my life. Instead, I'm getting rejections and constantly having to mentally reframe it to have no sting. It's easy to say to not care, but I guess for me, it's harder to put it into practice.

gothbaddiewtf · 2024-07-26T00:06:20+00:00

practice,i feel the same as you now,but when i was younger i gave 0 fucks,i simply look back and think,how the fuck i was able to do that?i think when you start to practice and get good results you start to lose sensibility to rejection

Thick_Yogurtcloset50 · 2024-07-26T13:46:01+00:00

Bro, it’s just the initial hesitation that you’re feeling. Once you overcome this, you’re game.

Remember it will be embarrassing, at times humiliating for the first few dozen women. Once you’ve interacted with enough of them, you’ll just know what to say when and it will be a smooth ride.

A few pointers, women like men who have humor and seem approachable, if you’re the one hitting on them. Specially when travelling, look as bright and presentable as you can, smile often.

Try to initiate a conversation by making a rather unconventional remark or a light joke on something that is going on around you, that generally sparks a conversation.

If you’re at a club or cafe, just give her a genuine compliment and move onn. She’ll think about it for a bit as you walk away. Then give her subtle eye contact and smiles throughout the next couple of hours. Before finally initiating a proper conversation again

RemarkableRegion5218 · 2024-07-26T04:42:46+00:00

She gets diarrhea. Her farts smell horrible. She destroys the bathroom most times. She has insecurities too. Her opinion of you doesn’t change your worth. It’s a mind game. It’s all in your head.

Pureevil1992 · 2024-07-26T05:13:00+00:00

By the time you get rejected 300 times you won't feel anything when they say no or go away, you won't even know what they said because you could tell in their facial expression it was a no before their mouth moved, and you won't care at all you're already looking for the next girl to open. In other words quit being a pussy.

nibitcoin · 2024-07-26T09:22:56+00:00

I'll just tell you that my friend the best pick-up artist does 50 openings without a problem And he absolutely doesn't care that most cases he has a 10 second conversation and sometimes he is simply rejected by body language and has 0 s interactions but usually at the end of Friday after 00 am he opens a girl who was just heading for the bus or train, interacts with her and a few minutes later they fuck in the car while all of us who play it safe only do 5 openings It's good if we manage to get one number and then we still have to waste a lot of time several meetings and make an appointment and sometimes even this number is dead and she does not want to answer so you just have to do a few dozen openings and you will have success you are in a strange place you have nothing better to do so open

RaceToPlace · 2024-07-26T03:05:46+00:00

Idk the answer to your question but I wanted to comment on something.

It's way easier to approach someone alone then in a group. I can't imagine how it would be the opposite for anyone. That just baffles me.

zebekias · 2024-07-26T15:03:08+00:00

I hear you, but what are the alternatives? die alone? if you want a sexy hottie with you, gotta commit to learning how to climb the mountain, whatever it takes. It's definitely not comfortable and eventually this discomfort becomes your norm.

DaygameCode · 2024-07-26T16:00:16+00:00

Once you understand that you are not approaching women to prove your worth, fight for your pride, that you aren't doing anything strange or wrong by trying to get to know them in a polite manner, and accepting with humIlity that not everyone you like has to like you back. You can begin to see game as a tool for buidling resilience and training your skills which detaches you from the outcome.

Being intimidated by women happens when deep down you don't feel good enough for them assuming that if you were in their position you would reject a guy like you which comes from low self-esteem and thus you don't approach because you reject yoruself first in order to avoid being reminded of the though reality you feel you live.

But even when you feel good enough for women, then the fear that stops you is your ego because it might feel that deep down the reason to feel good enough is inflated and thus your ego fears a reality check that would weaken him and force you to face potential flaws that you did not know you had, flaws which you refuse to either aknowledge them or get confirmation that you have them, or flaws that you would rather choose to run away from.

When you stop protecting your infalted image you want to project to others that you have and when you understand that rejection isn't something to take personal, and instead an opportunity to learn from mistakes and grow as a result, you can approach women not caring what ends up happening because you know that you are just there to experiment and learn from both good and bad experiences.

DaSlowMotionPimpSlap · 2024-07-27T05:45:34+00:00

first step at getting kinda good at something is sucking at it first - jake from adventure time and I think joe rogan, But its really true bro even though its really painful you have to keep going as most things in life especially as a man.

TransitionOk9918 · 2024-07-31T19:58:31+00:00

This is your time to fuck up. Yes it’s harder to approach the hot girl but from my experience 90% of the time it’s in your head. When you’re gonna come back to your country you will have it easier if you get over it because you’re going to understand this shit isn’t so bad

Title	How do you guys do it?
Author	querico78
Upvotes	21
Comments	29
Date	July 25, 2024 11:16 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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