IME with both men and women, whether it’s social circle environments, bars, clubs, parties, etc, I find that when you apply this advice that came from the popular book “How to win friends and influence people”, most of the time ppl just give one word responses and then end up talking over you/ignoring to go talk to someone else or even if they do end up staying to talk to you and they tell you about their life after you’ve taken a genuine interest and them and asked good questions, they still don’t really ask you any questions back and take an interest in you.

It’s almost like they just saw you as a fan and enjoyed the free validation sandwich you just gave them. And unsurprisingly I notice this most from men who look like “Chads” or look “High status”, while dudes who look nerdy/short/ugly will talk my ear off and be happy that someone actually gives a shit ab them. And with women surprisingly it’s black and white. Sometimes unattractive women will act like their shit doesn’t stink and give me 1 word responses and other times, more attractive women will actually engage in a conversation with me. But all in all Id say this issue is still common for most women I meet as well. It seems like even social circle environments/friend groups are very looks oriented and the hierarchy is rooted in that.

Idk what are your guys thoughts on this and have you had a similar experience? Did you overcome it? If so how did you do it?