Getting over someone you fell for

EmilyEggplant · 2024-08-25T18:04:27+00:00

Quick aside: an observation I’ve noticed from friends and my social circle is that starting to date a man while they are in the middle of medical/law school rarely works out. The only times I’ve heard of it (sometimes) succeeding are when 1) you’re also in medical/law school and you’re both fellow students or 2) you were in a committed relationship with him prior to him starting med/law school. But I am sorry to hear and I think myself and most women know how this feels. It’s a normal part of dating and I truly believe that it wasn’t meant to be and there’s somebody else meant for you.

serene_brutality · 2024-08-25T16:34:03+00:00

You can’t do anything about your feelings, but you can control your actions. What you’ve been doing is about the best you can do. Only time and distance will make these feelings fade. You’ve got to keep reminding yourself that you deserve better although you still may want him. Remind yourself that you’re living in a fantasy world, and think about what a relationship with him would actually be like given is current behavior not just the idealistic one you have in your head. You’re too stuck on what could be that you’re ignoring what is. The more you come to accept what is, likely the less you’ll possessed and hurting over missing what could be.

cubatista92 · 2024-08-25T16:11:37+00:00

I don't know how to bring you closure. I do know that making room in your life for someone not willing to do the same, will lead to heartbreak.

Your best option in the dating world is someone who is as eager as you.

This person you're envisioning is not real. The vision you have involves this person being an attentive and committed partner. The real man is not demonstrating those qualities.

b0reddddsss · 2024-08-26T17:35:45+00:00

Only thing you should worry about is getting hotter and hotter. Either you will find someone much better or he'll get interested again. It's really that easy for men

zaftig_stig · 2024-08-25T23:52:07+00:00

We can’t control our feelings, but we can control our thoughts.

One thing I did to move on from someone is I Cchanged their contact photo to something unattractive.

My ex loved Buccee‘s and Buccee’s overwhelms me. So when he texts or calls and I see that logo, my first thought is Ugh! Instead of AWW HE’S CALLING ME!!!

If you find your thoughts drifting and going down a rabbit hole, tell yourself ‘he’s not for me, but there is someone even better out there!

NewAppleverse · 2024-08-26T07:18:13+00:00

Time is needed to move on.

Some things that might help you move on faster:

Join gym/yoga classes
Start a new hobby
Travel for a while. It helps you see and understand that there are over 8 billion+ to chose from

In general, more activities you are involved in, the faster it will be for you to move on. But it's important to approach it with love and care for yourself.

Dionne005 · 2024-08-26T13:42:09+00:00

Well first off talking to multiple men at once will help you never be in this situation ever again. I can’t inside investing into one person that hasn’t spent anything on me or zero quality time.

imnot1234 · 2024-08-26T01:15:07+00:00

I had this happen before I found my bf. You got out of a toxic relationship, be thankful someone made you feel excited again, maybe he was just here to show you that you are capable of being loved again, and if you feel excited about this person, even though it's not ideal, imagine how good you'll feel when he's just as eager about you

AutoModerator · 2024-08-25T15:33:58+00:00

Title: Getting over someone you fell for

Author CobblerEducational62

Full text: I caught feelings for someone who is now no longer showing me interest. I got attached to this person after coming out of a really toxic relationship. Talking to them gave me hope that I could find love again, and I started envisioning a future with them. I felt a deep connection, and this person had mentioned wanting to pursue me seriously etc etc.

Now they are no longer doing that, and only reach out every now and then. Every time they reach out I get so happy, and then feel embarrassed for feeling this way towards someone who is not pursuing me. I know what it’s like to be pursued and I know I deserve better, but I hold on to the idea that things will work out with this person somehow. That one day they will do all the things they said that they would. I think the lack of closure and hope has them constantly in my mind. I no longer text them, and I keep checking my phone to see if they finally reach out.

I really want to move on and no longer give this person any mind. Would greatly appreciate any advice. Please be kind. Thank you.

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plein_old · 2024-08-25T15:53:38+00:00

Is he pursuing other options?

Is he not feeling not sure he's ready for a relationship in general?

The answers to these questions might lead you in different directions in terms of how you want to proceed. Also, the answer to question #1 might make it sooooo easier to move on!

Jenneapolis · 2024-08-25T16:11:09+00:00

How often is he reaching out and what is he saying?

Title	Getting over someone you fell for
Author	CobblerEducational62
Upvotes	18
Comments	22
Date	August 25, 2024 3:33 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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