In this guide, I’m going to share the quickest ways to improve your text game and online dating results in general

1. Open with something unique about her profile.

Most guys send the same boring openers to a bunch of girls. “Hi” “How are you?” “You’re so cute!” etc.

So, sending a somewhat personalized opener is a great way to stand out and get that initial reply. Avoid commenting on her bio (thats what every guy does) and instead make a joke or witty observation about on of her photos (examples in article)

Also If you’re getting a ton of matches, you can probably skip this step and just send her a copy & paster opener (ex: "hey trouble")

2. Mix “get to know you” questions with flirting.

Most guys are leaning too far to one of two sides on a spectrum:

  • Asking way too many boring, platonic, “get to know you” questions, which will make the girl bored
  • Acting like a ‘dancing monkey’ and being too fun, flirty, and playful, which will make the girl not see you as a real person

You want some balance between these two. Example:

Guy: Hey trouble
Girl: That's me ;)
Guy: How's your day going
Girl: Pretty good, just at the beach. Hbu?
Guy: Ah getting nice & tan for our date

(more examples in article)

3. Always set up the date optimally.

The most common mistake guys make when planning a date is rushing the close. Instead you want to always start with a soft close before moving to a hard close.

  • Soft Close – Encouraging her to mentally commit to the idea of a date with you. Example: “We should share a bottle of wine soon.”
  • Hard Close – Finalizing the details like date, time, and location. Example: “How does Tuesday night at 8pm sound”

So, when is the right time to soft close? Do it during a peak moment in your interaction, when she’s clearly showing interest.

4. Always confirm the date.

Guys sometimes assume “Hey, I’ve planned the date, and she said yes! My work here is done!” Wrong. It’s crucial to follow up and confirm the date.

If you don’t confirm, she might protect her ego by preemptively flaking, meaning she "rejects" you to avoid the possibility of you canceling on her. This behavior helps her maintain control and avoid feeling rejected.

Therefore, a simple follow-up message like “Hey, still good for tomorrow?” can go a long way in solidifying your plans and ensuring she shows up.

Pro tip: you can say "Pick out a cute outfit for tomorrow yet ;)" as a flirty way of confirming

5. Always text with a purpose.

This is a big one. When you send text it should get you closer towards your goal (getting a date). You should also think one or two texts ahead

Don’t just send purposeless texts or get stuck talking about things for too long that don’t serve the purpose of meeting.

Conclusion

Follow these 5 rules and you will be ahead of the majority of guys on dating apps. To see a few more rules and a bunch of examples for all this, then check out the original article

https://www.playingfire.com/how-to-text-girls-on-tinder/