Everyone knows that dating apps have become very competitive. However, the majority of men using them, are making multiple mistakes when texting a girl. By following the advice in this post you will learn how to avoid these text game pitfalls and thus be ahead of 95% of men.

Texting Mistake 1: Failing a girl’s shit test

The majority of girls on dating apps (and everywhere else) will at some point in your convo playfully test you. This is also known as a congruency test. The underlying logic is that the girl wants to ensure that you’re not just all talk and you are actually the guy you’re presenting yourself to be. For example, let’s say you have a sexual bio or are having a sexual conversation something like this might happen:

Girl: “I see you put dominant in your bio”

Guy: “Yeah, you’re gonna be very submissive with me”

Girl: “Idk, you probably can’t handle me”

The girl is testing to make sure the guy isn’t just pretending to be dominant. A lot of guys would fail this shit test by either logically justifying themselves or backtracking. Either of these approaches would essentially be game over. Instead, the way to pass a shit test is through either:

  1. Being succinct and doubling down (ex: “I’m not worried at all”)
  2. Replying with humor (ex. “Don’t worry, you’ll be very well handled”)
  3. Challenging the girl right back (ex. “That’s easy, the real is if you can handle what I got in mind”)

Use either one of these approaches, or a combination of them, to pass every shit test a girl gives you

Texting Mistake 2: Giving up too soon.

At some point in the majority of your texting interactions, the girl will stop responding (this can also happen multiple times). This is especially true for the hottest girls on dating apps. By giving up every time a girl fails to respond to your texts, you will miss out on the majority of your potential dates.

Thus, it is important to learn how to reignite the conversation by double or even triple texting.

Some guys think this is low value, but then they wonder why they could never get a date. There is, of course, different ways to double text based on the context. Let’s take a look at some examples.

Example 1: 

Girl: Yeah I can meet this weekend

Guy: Cool, how does Friday at 8 sound?

Girl: (No response)

The best follow up here would be something like don’t think too hard now” or “don’t worry, it’s not a trick question.” This will very likely make the girl laugh and get her to respond to your date proposal.

Example 2:

Guy: We should get together for a drink sometime soon

Girl: (No response)

A good response here would be to playfully challenge her by saying “If you’re too nervous, I’d understand.” This line only makes sense though, when you’re suggesting for the girl to do something and she’s not responding. So always pay attention to the context.

Example 3:

Guy: Hey

Girl: (No response)

A good text here would be “ah, a woman of few words I see.” This once again playfully challenges the girl into responding.

Note: You don’t want to double text the girl too fast, as that could come off too needy. We recommend waiting at least a day or two, before reengaging the conversation.

 

Texting Mistake 3: Being too logical/boring.

Boring, logical questions are a great way to lose the girl’s interest. Fortunately for you, that’s what the majority of guys are doing. Their conversations sound like a job interview

what do you do for work? what do you do for fun? how do you like your job?

It is ok to ask the girl some logical questions to get the conversation started, but you want to quickly transition to a more playful and flirty convo. Don’t be afraid to take some social risks in your convo with a girl. Girls like a guy who’s bold, but not crazy.

For example, you’re talking to a girl named Jessica, and she asks you “what do you like to do for fun?”

Average guy: “I like to watch movies and go to the gym. Hbu?”

This response would get you a half-assed response. However, if you were instead to say

You: “travel, lift heavy weights, open doors for old ladies, and various kinky activities… Just missing a little Jessica in my life.”

You would get a much more invested and potentially even sexual message back from the girl. The big picture is that girls on dating apps don’t want to have logical conversations, they want to laugh, flirt, and feel a variety of emotions. This means you can’t be boring, like every other guy.

 Hopefully you guys found this valuable