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how does a guy build an emotional connection with a woman?

Particular_Water_117

October 29, 2024

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Title	how does a guy build an emotional connection with a woman?
Author	Particular_Water_117
Upvotes	31
Comments	58
Date	October 29, 2024 9:00 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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I recommend you check out some books by Brené Brown. She delves into this topic of emotional vulnerability and how it's appropriate to go about it. The Psychology in Seattle YouTube channel also goes a lot into these themes.

Vulnerability brings people together but it has to be done gradually. You don't want to overwhelm someone by trauma dumping all your shit at once.

Sprinkle in some emotional vulnerability here and there. Don't go overboard. But also don't hide it completely.

when you say your issue is "Keeping them interested" that's usually a sign that you're doing everything too slowly. This bores them and they lose interest. So that's why you gotta move things forwards when they're interested. Immediately. Strike while the iron is hot. Once they're interested: ask them out. Escalate physically. Don't delay or they will get bored and lose interest

[–]Particular_Water_117[S] 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I recommend you check out some books by Brené Brown. She delves into this topic of emotional vulnerability and how it's appropriate to go about it. The Psychology in Seattle YouTube channel also goes a lot into these themes

Thank u for the recs :)

Vulnerability brings people together but it has to be done gradually. You don't want to overwhelm someone by trauma dumping all your shit at once.

Sprinkle in some emotional vulnerability here and there. Don't go overboard. But also don't hide it completely.

could u perhaps give me an example of suitable vulnerability? I'm genuinely unsure on what is socially accepted, which is why I don't rrly bring things up.

Once they're interested: ask them out. Escalate physically. Don't delay or they will get bored and lose interest

atm I can't rrly go out bcs I'm pretty busy (school related) but w one person in particular I've suggested a link up and she seemed interested. She takes pretty long to reply to me (in turn I do the same), but when she replies it's enthusiastic. Kinda gives me mixed signal, but then again she does have a full time job, and she's possibly not the type to want to be on the phone too much (phone reminds her of work? idk)

the interest however is confusing in the above case, I can't quite triangulate where she stands. I'm between not msging her until I'm free to meet, but then she could lose motivation bcs of the lack of communication w her and the momentum that I would be disrupting.

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I wouldn’t say it’s not emotional for her, but the emphasis here is not on her romantic feelings for you, but on her arousal. If you don’t get her aroused then yeah she’s not going to develop feelings for you either. If it’s not sexual, it’s platonic.

You don’t have to be a player, maybe you want a serious relationship. But you should still be flirty and sexual from day one.

Maybe she doesn’t want to get physical on the first few dates, that’s okay. You can still get her wet, you can still get her horny and wanting you. You don’t have to fuck on the first date but you do have to want to fuck each other on the first date.

Names might be a sign of interest, might not. Depends on context. Should be obvious, if she’s calling you sexy or babe then that’s probably positive.

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If she's calling you pet names and is touchy, those are very strong signs she's attracted to you

I haven't met up w her yet, but we're both comfortable calling eavhother pet names(even if it might be ironic name calling) and shes fine w me being flirty w her

side note : I'm pretty busy to be setting up a date atm. Should I keep texting her (on and off) until I'm free or shpuld I msg her out the blue 2 weeks from now to set up a time for us to meet? A part of me feels that going cold turkey will make her lose interest/motivation to meet up.

You have to see her as she sees herself. Can you gather if she seems adventurous or highly empathetic?

this is acc so insightful. From my texts w her and the vibe she gives off, she seems the adventurous type.

There's a lot more, but those are things to consider putting in your quiver

Thanks for the response rrly good advice

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