Team! I’m about to lose it! Found out today that my two young children when staying with their mother have been staying at her childhood boyfriend’s apartment. We were to together for 13 years. This boyfriend was the one prior to me. For the last 9 months she would not supply the address and adamant that I don’t know who he was. Kids have a got a little nick name for him. This man was involved in a burglary where some one was killed. He done his time and has been released since. She has now moved to his parents farm, as her primary residence. When I asked if it was him she finally admitted then said but we’re not together I have just started seeing some one else and I will only be at this residence for the next 9 months. Then I’ll be moving. It has been constant lies and disrespect. It’s her way or no way. Just today she messaged to say she was putting our son in soccer for 750 for the year fair price for sports. Although he just wants to play basketball. He has done soccer for 2 years and is tall and likes the challenge. She spoke to my son and he said I want to play basketball. She messaged me saying this isn’t good enough he can’t pick and choose. He will have no discipline. Then said that I didn’t have discipline as a child. What a stab at my parents( my parents were as strict and would beat me).

I write this because I’m not sure what to do any more, I feel like all choice has been taken away and feel controlled by her.

I am thinking of completely, cutting all communication. Only for emergency’s and using a mediator.

Any responses are welcomed thanks heaps fellas