New relationship- question

Expert-Raccoon6097 · 2024-07-01T13:12:18+00:00

Completely normal mate. You are not ready for the committment and compromise that comes with a traditional relationship. You just got your freedom and don't want to lose it so fast. That is why you are feeling controlled. You need this season to rediscover you, not focus on a partner.

Communicate with your partner and dial things back. Non-traditional relationships like casual, FWB are great for this season fo your life so you don't have to give up any freedom while you re-learn your old self.

UTHook3m · 2024-06-30T16:26:58+00:00

If it doesn’t feel right, then cut the cord and move on.

upvotersfortruth · 2024-06-30T14:30:08+00:00

Set your boundaries and your rules, if she can’t accept them and respect them, move on. If you find that no partner can, then maybe rethink them.

captainchippsixx · 2024-06-30T14:09:44+00:00

It’s called your gut. Always listen to it.

mr21vp · 2024-06-30T14:06:31+00:00

Biology and social programming runs deep, it's OK for a man to be single and enjoy his alone time. It took me a while to understand this and accept what I truly want at this point in my life. Personally I love the freedom of not being in a LTR.

Grand_Alps9214 · 2024-06-30T14:04:35+00:00

Normal and don’t force it. I met this girl. I never slept over. I didn’t want to. And I was ok with it. Was short term regardless. So the fact that you have reservation, just look after yourself.

Canadian_builder1081 · 2024-06-30T14:02:05+00:00

Gut instinct is a real thing. Trust that. Either she isnt “the one” or you aren’t ready for anything more serious right now.

CreativeNerd1729 · 2024-06-30T13:15:02+00:00

The effects of divorce reverberate years and decades down the line. There are many silent triggers that could remind you about the past or cause fear/anxiety/guilt etc. Everything is normal.

Old-Macaroon8148 · 2024-06-30T10:54:10+00:00

Nope, totally normal. I’ve been with a few women now and at the end of each date I’ll just lay there wanting to leave or hoping she will leave.

Why am I still here

Why are you still here

Can I start your car for you? Haha

But in all seriousness if you can’t wait to bail once you hit post nut clarity she’s probably not your long term person which is totally ok.

Embarrassed-Steak331 · 2024-06-30T07:38:32+00:00

I just broke up with a girl because of this. I'm two years out of a divorce. I've changed a lot. I'm not quite there. But I know where I want to be. And she felt she should be part of that process. So I got the silly putty treatment.

At six months she asked me about my retirement plans. It was one of the last conversations for us.

Nice girl. But she seemed clueless on why she shouldn't have gone there.

fixingmedaybyday · 2024-06-30T05:49:00+00:00

Listen to your body. It might not be ready for a relationship or not ready for a relationship with this woman. If you’re sensing that she’s controlling, you might have to test that and say no just to see how she reacts. Either way, the body keeps the score and one of the reasons so many of us marry the wrong woman is because we ignored our body and our emotions that should have told us to run for the hills. I think this is why it’s so important to meditate, learn our wants, needs and boundaries and never settle.

Title	New relationship- question
Author	Specific-Relation-62
Upvotes	8
Comments	15
Date	June 30, 2024 5:17 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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