If your goal is to meet a woman and start a family in the near future, would your strategy change?

Emma_Rocks · 2024-11-26T01:30:42+00:00

Yeah probably not wanna be dealing with online dating if that is what you're looking for. Real life connections will always be more genuine and will allow you to quickly gauge who you have good chemistry with and who you don't.

KoleSekor · 2024-11-26T01:45:27+00:00

Not online.

Think of your ideal partner. She probably has similar interests as you, right? How would you and your hypothetical partner spend weekends? Try those places.

_FIRECRACKER_JINX · 2024-11-26T05:38:15+00:00

What happened to make you suddenly realize that you need to start a family?

That seems .... Kinda relevant?

No-Preference8767 · 2024-11-26T05:16:38+00:00

Yeah id lead with the fact that your looking for a wife and go into screening for traits that make a good wife. In person.

Id also try as much as possible to do traditional dating where you're paying for the woman's meal to attract the most traditional woman.

The idea of " game " where you're doing specific actions to make yourself more likely to sleep with the other person should pretty much be avoided. You want to be as much of yourself as possible.

Dwerg1 · 2024-11-26T11:56:42+00:00

Careful with that need, you just amplified it.

Throughout my entire experience, personally, seeing relationships my friends have gone through and through countless stories online through the years, need has always been involved in poor decision making.

Do you know what's worse than living your entire life without creating a family? It's picking the wrong woman because your need went above reason. If you make a bad decision here and get all the way to having a bunch of kids you could either get stuck in a terrible relationship with a complete bitch or get absolutely fucked over paying a bunch of child support down the line.

This is no joke, it's a real danger that's all too easy to walk straight into if your focus is centered around your need.

My strategy changed when I came to the realization that I might just never fulfill this dream and that my happiness comes before anything else, regardless of whether I get to that point or not. It was very hard to let go of, but pretty much as soon as I did I ended up on the right path.

I felt good almost immediately, better than I ever had, I felt free, finally. That's when I met my wife. I had in fact given up, but because I had such a positive vibe about me she asked me for a date. At first I was unsure if I wanted to risk disturbing the happiness I had finally found, but concluded that was silly because if she did I could always just retreat back to my solitude and feel great again.

Anyways, as we dated my focus was very much on how I feel about her, how she makes me feel, how she treats me and I was watching very closely for any red flags. My strategy wasn't about getting her, not at all, it was about protecting myself in case she isn't who she seems to be. My mindset was that I would rather be alone than to put up with anything that would make me feel bad.

I saw no point whatsoever in dating unless I found nothing that could even remotely potentially become an issue 5, 10, 20, 30+ years down the line. A part of me was skeptical for 3 years before I felt assured enough to propose to her, I REALLY did not want to repeat the mistakes of men I've heard of in all those horror stories. I REALLY didn't want to be blinded by my own needs and went to great lengths to make sure I saw things as clearly as I possibly could.

Anyways, she turned out to be good. 9 years together, 2 kids and a whole boatload of love. Currently living my dream, but still I would rather have been single and childless right now than to have picked the wrong woman, because I know if I made a bad choice this dream would quickly have turned into a nightmare.

My point is that you should worry far more about the quality of women you come across than worrying about whether you can get her. If you're in a scarcity mindset, feeling like you're running out of time and like you just have to take whatever you can get to have a chance of fulfilling this need of yours, you're putting yourself at great risk of absolutely fucking up your life.

Entering a relationship coming from a place of need is a recipe for disaster, unless you're EXTREMELY lucky. It's like gambling, you're probably going to lose as the odds are stacked against you.

CrazyRepulsive8244 · 2024-11-26T03:12:50+00:00

You need to play the game. Game is not just about hooking up. It's about how to satisfy and excite women. It's about how to be a man and display that attractively to a partner.

If you decide to forego the rules and just lay it out that is not attractive. You will not get many results that way. It goes against everything that turns a woman on. Unless you are meeting the type of woman who wants the exact same thing, and with you specifically, t's not gonna happen.

You need to seduce a girl you find compatible. Then make her love you. And then get in a relationship and propose. It's no different than anything else, except your intentions.

However the only difference is selection. Be selective on who you commit to, since you're looking at forever with them.

Charge36 · 2024-11-26T01:51:42+00:00

Need to be careful not to like. Dump relationship expectations of starting a family too heavily from the get go, but yes it needs to be in the conversation early on. Make a joke about how your future kids would look and see how she reacts

rus1216 · 2024-11-26T03:19:00+00:00

Yeah

restecpa88 · 2024-11-26T10:01:55+00:00

With you on this. Dating for marriage now.

Hungry_Ad2210 · 2024-11-28T11:11:47+00:00

While I still want to have some fun and meet a lot of girls, sometimes I have these moments where I think what I truly want is to start a family. Usually when I see my neighbors having that family life. Would my strategy change, probably not so much, but there would be some changes.

Title	If your goal is to meet a woman and start a family in the near future, would your strategy change?
Author	Jcorb
Upvotes	4
Comments	11
Date	November 26, 2024 1:26 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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