One night stand turned into confusing future

seduction-ModTeam · 2024-11-29T09:45:14+00:00

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Dwerg1 · 2024-11-28T12:32:13+00:00

She's unreliable, you don't like that, move on, simple as that.

You just need to determine whether having a good time together one time is enough to compromise your boundaries. Question is how many times she needs to flake before enough is enough for you, where is your boundary? Pretty vital to knowing whether to give her another chance or not.

I'd say your boundary is already reached because you feel bad about her actions.

l1ght- · 2024-11-28T14:06:25+00:00

You’ve got no frame bro. She’s been in control of this entire interaction from the very beginning.

If a girl vaguely wanted plans for the weekend, I’d get them locked down on a date & time there and then. I certainly wouldn’t cancel plans for something that isn’t scheduled.

Don’t take this personally because I don’t know you, but this post describes what seems like a lost puppy waiting and hoping for the pretty lady to text him back.

Take initiative and start taking some control here.

Bro1616161616 · 2024-11-28T14:22:15+00:00

She broke up with her boyfriend recently which means she's definitely going through some emotional turmoil right now. She probably missed him a lot when she cancelled your meetup, then realized she needed distraction so hit you up a week later. I had the same going witha girl a couple of years ago. Best advice I can give is leave her alone, don't text her. If you are a guy who doesnt develop feelings quickly, by all means, go for it if she reaches out. But be careful as she will be thinking of her ex a lot, meaning she will start comparing you to him not even intentionally.

constantflow · 2024-11-28T17:22:08+00:00

Bro she used you as a place holder for the weekend. A dance, hookup, and text doesn't guarantee anything, that's just a normal outing for her. She fucked you before leaving while having a boyfriend, meaning you were not the only one - point proven by the following weekends. Stop pouring your energy on her actions and start on your own.

No_Assistance_5565 · 2024-11-28T16:47:42+00:00

I never give advice on these but it’s as simple as getting her on the phone. Stop texting her. Also you set the time with your schedule. She has no structure.

NeonTangoDancer · 2024-11-28T16:30:23+00:00

/u/Captain_w00t technically this post is about a "specific situation". I need to make a field report from last night but literally every post I make here on any account gets hidden/removed. I haven't made a post here in like 2 years, and the mod team tells me there's nothing they can do because the filters get triggered. Where am I supposed to ask my questions? It's hard for me to even come to this sub anymore when I have legit questions, search and ask around but can't get an answer because my posts are filtered out no matter what account I use.

petrintower · 2024-11-28T17:39:40+00:00

1) forget her 2) do not change/cancel your plans for a random girl 3) there is no future, so no confusion

LookinLust · 2024-11-28T15:50:57+00:00

Ngl I’m working on being the type to just let go of a woman the second I sense that she’s not giving the same energy So old me would advice would be to ask her what’s wrong and all that crap. But the new me will stop texting if you don’t respond in 7hrs max which is long time so best advice is keep on walking Johnnie.

Kobe_curry24 · 2024-11-28T21:27:57+00:00

One night stand you reach out if she says no move on it’s a reason it’s one night stand lmaooo this is elementary man especially if your going to be doing night game .. if your still in that lust phase and falling for every women you sleep with . That means you haven’t slept with enough women. Go talk to more women and see if you can get a GF but one night is one night you don’t change the rules

Informal-Hippo-9272 · 2024-11-28T21:58:49+00:00

You're her rebound. You mean nothing to her, she just feels bad because she broke up with her boyfriend. Move on.

BubbaFromFlorida · 2024-11-29T01:02:16+00:00

You were an option. She chose someone else. It’s as simple as that. She CHOSE someone else over you. Simone else was laying pipe while you sat around the phone and waited. Block and move on.

WatchMyHatTrick · 2024-11-29T02:43:45+00:00

Deff just a rebound. She is not invested in you. Still hit though. Take that and move on.

mabden · 2024-11-29T03:25:48+00:00

Your biggest mistake was canceling plans for a maybe. The other mistake was being too available, indicating you had nothing (better) going on.

To add, this chick is a time waster. Lose her number.

Suggest reading The System by Doc Love.

Serious_Asparagus577 · 2024-11-29T06:57:01+00:00

She's just trying to get over the other guy... You're a tool.

Title	One night stand turned into confusing future
Author	Tommer53
Upvotes	25
Comments	22
Date	November 28, 2024 12:24 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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