How normal is it to fumble?

Fancy-Ad-8594 · 2025-01-06T05:06:34+00:00

Pfft… I fumbled so much man, it’s so shit to now a girl likes you and you don’t know what to do and fuck everything up.

My advice, don’t be so harsh on yourself, fucking move on to the next girl, fumble again but continously learn where you fucked up.

If you are fumbling it’s clear you are doing something wrong but it’s your homework to learn what it is; then try again.

everydayguy_ · 2025-01-06T03:32:20+00:00

Everybody fumbles it. It happens less as you get more experienced not only with women but with life.

Dwerg1 · 2025-01-06T06:45:46+00:00

Back when I was going out a lot, trying to learn the art, I always fumbled the most when I tried to "do it right". That is until out of sheer curiosity I tried stuff I thought surely wouldn't work, fully expecting it to fail. To my surprise I had more success with that than when I tried to do anything "properly".

So what's really a fumble? That's a bit of a fuzzy concept to me, because it appears trying to make it work leads to fumbling and trying to fumble it just kinda works somehow.

The times where it has felt like women are just throwing themselves at me are the times where I have given the least amount of fucks about going anywhere with women. The times where I just turn off my filter completely to say and do what sometimes appears to me to be the stupidest shit. It makes sense in retrospect though, going outside the box and straight up breaking conventional behavior is indeed far more interesting than 99% of guys trying to follow the same recipe of "what you're supposed to do".

I embrace the fumble, it has served me well.

Puzzleheaded_Back181 · 2025-01-06T11:29:18+00:00

Most valuable lesson I’ve learned is to be detached from the situation, best way to do this is have a shit ton of options, yeah be charming and everything but never get too attached to the outcome

I fumble the moment I realize she likes me, when a “crush” develops, the moment I like her more than she does me.

Had a girl ask me out and give me her number at work and somehow I fumbled by being too clingy, double texting and telling her I liked her when she just wanted to “have fun with me”

HappySprinter · 2025-01-06T13:03:58+00:00

My dad used to say “anyone who has never lost a fight, has no idea how to fight”.

Take that how you will

FirmGuitar5411 · 2025-01-06T04:10:25+00:00

Explain more bro with examples. I get very good interactions during day game and some night game, but I fumble over text. Girls that are super ready to go on instantdates but have bad logistics txt me back right away, then I fumble over text. But yea post some examples bro

devilkingx2 · 2025-01-06T09:50:33+00:00

Everybody fumbles all the time. Even celebrities fumble.

Just learn from your mistakes, don’t make the same mistake twice, don’t make obvious mistakes anyone could see coming, don’t make mistakes you’ve already seen before.

Also sometimes it may look like a fumble but it’s not a real fumble. If she got turned off because you texted her back too fast one time, what were the odds of you playing perfectly without making one single move that isn’t calculated by a supercomputer all the way until sex? Low enough that it’s safe to say you didn’t fumble, the girl was low interest/crazy.

AnMoCa_Nav · 2025-01-06T10:38:15+00:00

It’s all about highs and lows, sometimes you’ll get better and greater results and sometimes it won’t be as good than before. Bear in mind that this is just a glorified hobby rather than taking it too seriously and trying too hard. Be easy on yourself and relax, you’ll see how results come

Top_Chocolate_4203 · 2025-01-06T15:48:23+00:00

Fumbling in dating isn't just normal, it's a rite of passage. If you're not screwing up, you're not pushing your limits. But if you're stuck in fumble mode, maybe you need a coach, not just luck.

Broad-Cranberry-9050 · 2025-01-06T14:12:58+00:00

You will likely fumble more than you will succeed. With time it gets easier and you become more immune to rejection but you have ti go through it to get better.

One if my favorite scenes to wuote is from HIMYM. Barney (the womanizer of the group) is celebrating all the girls he’s been able to bang and how he’s the best at getting girls and Marshall (whose body count is 1) tells him that he really isnt that good because if we take the average of girls he flirts with with girls he’s had sex with then he fucks about 6% of the girls he flirts with. Thats 6 out of 100 girls. If you fucked 6 girls in 6 months you would be “killing it”. But it took you talking to 100 girls to get there.

iluvreddit · 2025-01-06T23:47:20+00:00

That's how you learn. Totally normal.

Title	How normal is it to fumble?
Author	decal1210
Upvotes	15
Comments	28
Date	January 6, 2025 3:30 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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