Ex and I live about 10 miles apart. Kid is 3.5. 50/50 custody. Both of us have similarly rated public schools within literally 2 blocks of our homes. I own what was the marital home. She rents. State is Virginia.

It's going to be a fight to decide which school he goes to when he hits kindergarten age. For all the obvious reasons - I'd like him to go to the one near me. Haven't raised this with the lawyer yet - but cursory research says that Virginia focuses on "what's best for the child." Frankly - from an objective standpoint, neither school is evidently and definitively better or worse. Unless you think the kid is better off with one parent over the other. I have about 18 months before this becomes a serious thing, and anything could happen between now and then. I'd just like to stack the deck in my favor should we eventually find ourselves arguing in front of a judge.

Anybody have experience with this? Open solicitation for advice from the collective brain trust.