I’ve had a couple previous posts regarding my current situation. Married 26 years, no kids, going through divorce, just finished meditation and we are in the final stages. Still living together and it’s amicable, so far. We have a mutual male friend that lives out of state, he and I txt each other everyday, talk about different interests etc and he knows we are getting a divorce. I have not shared any details about the divorce just high level things and he hasn’t asked.

I am certain my STBEX is txting him regularly and I am suspicious that she is sharing details of the settlement and making me out to be the bad guy. He hasn’t said anything to me and when he txts “how’s it going” I answer “..good, just working through the process..” and don’t share anything else. Should I confront either or both of them? I don’t think I should ask him to choose sides or not to txt her, we are not together anymore. But I feel like he knows more than I have shared and that makes me uncomfortable when talking to him.