How to escalate with awkward nerdy man

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Fine_Leather · 2025-02-21T12:19:51+00:00

Blow him in the car.

Far-Sir1362 · 2025-02-21T12:24:16+00:00

Is he inexperienced? He might be nervous because he's not sure what he should be doing. Maybe it'd be good to just be very clear and ask him if you can go back to his place at the end of the date

Scared-Wrangler-4971 · 2025-02-21T13:04:35+00:00

You have to touch him more in a non sexual way at first, and over time convert playful touches to sexual touches. Things like footsies and dumb shit like that can be a light hearted way to break down his unease with physical touch.

Touch his hands or his arms/ forearms look into his eyes stop and repeat almost like you trying to provoke a reaction without words. If you’re consistent enough and he really does like you he will reciprocate at some point it.

I’m kinda of an awkward guy my self but this is generally how I like my woman to show interest aside from the body language thing you said before(don’t just grab for my dick, relax…let’s build the tension is my general approach).

Essentially just be playful, eventually, if he’s attracted to you playful will turn sexual.

Lit-Up · 2025-02-21T13:27:12+00:00

You need to establish that he is into you first. It's awkward for anybody if someone they are not into is expressing interest - you've been on the receiving end of that, I'm sure.

AlCastIt · 2025-02-21T12:56:54+00:00

Lean into him, put your head on his shoulder. Do that move where you hold his arm. I am going to assume he is completely oblivious, so you may even have to tell him to kiss you.

DopeAFjknotreally · 2025-02-21T13:21:26+00:00

There’s a good chance that he is nervous because he is scared of screwing things up.

As a guy who can sometimes be a little bit of an over thinker, you have no idea how much I’d appreciate a woman just saying “hey, I genuinely like you. It feels like you’re a little nervous around me sometimes, but I want you to know that I’m digging this, and it’s okay to relax and be yourself. I like yourself”

Obviously there’s a right time for that, but being vulnerable and authentic about how you’re feeling there would make it so much easier for me to just be myself and not feel nervous or worried about doing something wrong

SuperPoop · 2025-02-21T14:00:07+00:00

getting him into state where he feels comfortable should help. what does he do to relax? video games? watching techy youtube videos? try doing these activities with him and get him in a comfortable state

Independent-Tear6974 · 2025-02-21T14:01:38+00:00

Make the 1st move

Barn07 · 2025-02-21T12:20:05+00:00

hello me understand. you date since years, you're lovers. what do you want to escalate to?

Title	How to escalate with awkward nerdy man
Author	WorstCaseHauntarios
Upvotes	47
Comments	54
Date	February 21, 2025 12:16 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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