Does letting go of the chase actually attract what you want?

norwegiandoggo · 2025-03-01T08:24:06+00:00

The key is to "chase" / make moves, without appearing needy and desperate.

If you don't make any moves - some will find that attractive, but you'll not have any control over the outcome. Any success will be up to the other person. For you it's going to be pure luck.

If you make moves but you seem desperate and needy - you'll be taking action but you'll be frequently rejected.

If you make moves in a non-needy, non-deseperate way, you'll have the best chance of success. You'll still get rejected, but less often.

FineManufacturer5907 · 2025-03-01T08:44:05+00:00

You have to chase. But not appear like you’re too invested (my big mistake). It’s a big paradox me and many men haven’t solved yet. The best advice especially if you’re new like me is just go for it even if you make a fool of yourself for the first few time. Only then will you learn A needy guy who actually approaches women wins over men who just doesn’t.

epimpstyle · 2025-03-01T12:18:32+00:00

I am amazed and can't believe it when I see guys literally think that if they work on themselves, the universe will work in such a way that girls will magically appear out of nowhere so they don't have to make any effort! This concept is repeated so often by so many people that literally everyone believes it.

You said you got "mixed signals" - why is that a problem? The next step depends on how you handle it, it is not her fault, it is only yours if you have not stepped forward.

You also said "interest seems there but doesn’t follow through" - my question is, what did YOU do for the next step? Just wait and hope for the best?

SuperCat2023 · 2025-03-01T08:38:55+00:00

No they won't because you'll be inactive. Sure you might get lucky and found the one but statically you have way more chance to when being active and making moves. The term chase is often used negatively when you're being clingy / needy

CaliMan006 · 2025-03-01T07:47:58+00:00

This is actually a very good question. I’m hoping people will chime in to provide some real answers on this one.

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-03-01T06:45:03+00:00

You don’t have to stop chasing if you didn’t chase in the first place.

MysteryLiezer · 2025-03-01T07:31:10+00:00

Absolutely not!

Ok_Jackfruit5164 · 2025-03-01T19:40:21+00:00

Letting go of the outcome is what really matters. You still gotta put in effort

CommanderBayou · 2025-03-01T19:41:28+00:00

so you do have to 'chase', if you do nothing then nothing will result in it. the way i see it, you should always be putting the ball in her court

escalate and see how she responds but if she doesn't then that's her loss. but you must do those escalation pushes

because what will make her lose interest is if you throw the ball in her court, then go over, take the ball again, and try to dunk it for her. give her the ball and challenger her too come to you if that basketball allegory makes sense?

MineDesperate2920 · 2025-03-06T12:37:52+00:00

Sort of yes sort of no. Loa is kinda BS while stills being true. Letting go in itself is actually an amazing tool and you should read letting go by David Hawkins. And wash Julien blanc on YouTube.

Title	Does letting go of the chase actually attract what you want?
Author	decal1210
Upvotes	19
Comments	28
Date	March 1, 2025 6:31 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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