I was thinking of this technique for asking a girl out, instead of just blurting out a request for her contact info or a date, giving her a chance to reject (and blow up the idea) I can address all the potential rejections prior to asking her on a date or asking for her contact info. Here’s how that would work:

Typical non qualified example:

Him: “hey I wanted to meet you real quick..” Her: “ok hi” Him: “so can I get your number?” Her: “sorry I have a boyfriend.”

So in the above example we rush the conversation and skip right to the close, putting the girl on the spot, asking for a yes/no answer early on in the interaction without finding out much more about her, I think this is a big mistake and can lead to the girl nervously shutting you down because she just doesn’t feel comfortable yet, also, she might have a boyfriend and she might not, but girls can use this excuse just to nicely reject, perhaps it might be more effective to find out via conversation what her relationship status is, etc., before shooting any kind of shot.

Pre qualified Example:

Him: “hey blah blah” Her: “yes yes blah blah blah” (Build up some connection via chit chat) Him: “question are you married yet?” Her: “haha noooo” Him: “why not? were you ever married before?” Her: “no im only 20” Him: “well do you think you’ll get married before you turn 30 or will you be one of those older women in the club that they call cougars lol” Her: “omg nooo I’m not a loser like those old single women in the club haha I need a man to marry me before it gets to that” Him: “ so are you dating a lot of guys trying to find mr. right, like dating with an agenda to marry your next boyfriend… or are you just living your life and going with the flow?” (Translation will you do casual dating or are you only focused on a serious relationship ?) Her: “omg teehee I just go with the flow” (I’ll be casual for the alpha types hopeful of relationship with them) Him: “so describe your last relationship how did that go?” Her: “blah blah blah” (she confirms that she is currently single “ Him: “so do you have a type?” Her: “no not really”

  • at this point the guy has just chatted with her, never asking her out or putting her on the spot to say yes/no to a date or contact info exchange. He has only had a fun conversation with her and has been taking account of her answers and the vibe. He has established that she is currently single, that she is open to giving up the sex before commitment (for the right guys) and that she will be a loser if she doesn’t get someone to marry her eventually but even though she is only 20, she better start thinking about that since time is ticking. He also addressed the potential rejection point that he isn’t her type, getting her to admit that she doesn’t have a type. With this casual approach to chatting up a girl and getting her into the spot where she is admitting that she is A) single, B) open to being intimate before commitment C) not restricted to a specific type of guy, and D) she’s aware that her time is running out eventually (to get married) which means she is not holding all the cards, the power dynamic is at least balanced and possibly more in the guy’s favor as he holds the ball with regard to ultimately committing to her. With all of this established and also a good ‘vibe’ throughout the conversation, he can safely shoot his shot without her being able to reject in the normal way that she’s used to doing (I have a boyfriend) or (sorry you aren’t my type).

Basically my idea is to flip the script and turn the tables a bit. Ask some questions that lead her to admit that she’s actually 100% single, that her last boyfriend was a jerk or a beta or whatever, and that she’s not opposed to pre martial intimacy. Furthermore, she is the one who needs a good man to commit to her before she’s left out of the whole marriage thing, and that her self assured confidence and posturing and ego and all of that is not real. She will be a loser if no one wants to commit to her by age 30, and time is running out. Now: She’s the seller you are the buyer.