How to get back into approaching

Bright_Type_7756 · 2025-03-12T18:48:40+00:00

If you're getting ignored it's probably just a few things you should tweak to atleast get them to talk to you for a second. Make sure you look presentable , eye contact and tonality. If those boxes are checked i guarantee you a girl will ATLEAST speak to you even if it's a rejection. Also if you haven't got one date out of 600 approaches you gotta assume it has more to do with how you're doing it than the women itself. Can you give us a better description of how your approaches go & what you're saying?

epimpstyle · 2025-03-12T19:19:46+00:00

did it for 8months(600plus people approached) straight with a friend never got a date even once

I'm 46 yo, this year I've only approached 8 women, and got 3 dates. The women are between 25-35 years old. What do you do mate? 600 is a huge number, you must be doing something extremely bad. I understand you take care of your skin and physical look but what about the conversation skills? Do you have funny/interesting & DHV stories? I'm only 170 and getting gray on my hair, I'm not a top model but I do my best to look positive, optimistic, and playful.

You don't need to make any special eye contact, just the normal eye contact you make when you look at a friend of yours. There are a bunch of theories about approching: tonality, voice projection, deep voice, eye-contact but actually I don't have any of these things but it still works. This was filmed in Ukraine two years ago VIDEO and this one a few minutes later on the same street VIDEO do you see strong/deep voice or voice projection talking from diaphragm? Maybe eye-contact and confident attitude? No way! It is not as difficult as it looks when you cut out all the BS theories. It is important to make a good first impression and have an interesting story to talk about, forget about direct openers, try to talk normally and build from there, escalate only if it is possible or leave if you see the girl is not receptive.

liftingnstuff · 2025-03-12T19:00:27+00:00

Doing 600 approaches but you can't even articulate or reflect on what you did well and what you did wrong. Like going to the gym for years and never adding any weight or muscle.

Read posts/watch videos by people telling you how to do a good cold approach. Try to apply the techniques during an approach. Take a moment after the approach to reflect on things you did well during the approach and things you did poorly. Write it down in a notebook or on your phone. After you're done approaching for the day or night or the next day, read your notes. Remember back to the things that you did well and lean into them more with the next approach. Think about WHY those things went well. Remember the things you did poorly. Why did they not work? How can you do those things better in the future?

bodd619 · 2025-03-12T19:58:32+00:00

Hey man I'm curious, why do you say bring treated like shit?

And not getting a single date after 600? How are you usually approaching? (So where, at what time, how and what do you say?)

TheKanonFoder · 2025-03-13T00:23:23+00:00

If you've approached 600 people you've been rejected by all of them It's got to be something you're doing. My cold approach rate was like one and 10 to sex.3-4 of 10 to second encounter. My guess is that you expect failure and they can see this and they smell it they smell the desperation .

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-03-13T02:08:02+00:00

You have the opposite problem. You have mindless execution without reflecting upon your experience. Usually how to improve is that you do the approach and then reflect what went wrong and change it for the next one. See my post on approaching women well, do you do everything in that list?

Chicagoj1563 · 2025-03-13T09:58:33+00:00

Sounds like you have the resources. Ag Hayden, karisma king , and rsd. If you have seen this content, you should know how to deal with the issues you are experiencing. Not saying it’s easy or a quick fix, but you should already have the road map for what to do.

Why are the rejections getting to you? Why aren’t you making them fun and learning from reference experiences?

Majestic_Ad6799 · 2025-03-13T10:36:19+00:00

I think you should keep going, tell your self, i got rejected, ignored and trated like shit, fine i ll do it anyway.

MrPound4Pound · 2025-03-15T00:37:17+00:00

Ever thought about professional help by now like a dating coach. Maybe it's something you need someone outside of yourself to analyze what you're doing wrong.

Title	How to get back into approaching
Author	SeaMindless2607
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Date	March 12, 2025 6:30 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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