Question about single moms that RP love to hate

nofrickz · 2025-03-24T01:58:53+00:00

Absolutely zero. Men, especially RP men will never hold another man accountable for anything. You could have abused 150 women sexually in a month and men will still stay silent or blame women.

Red_Trapezoid · 2025-03-24T12:25:16+00:00

Case by case. Those women certainly didn’t impregnate themselves though. I’ll tell you that much.

LolliaSabina · 2025-03-24T15:58:06+00:00

I was married -- I thought happily -- for a decade. Life was a little stressful because we had three (planned) kids under five, but he never said he was unhappy or there were issues with our relationship. Till the day he announced he was leaving me for a coworker.

Honestly, everyone was flabbergasted, up to an including his parents. I don't know what I could've done differently.

Ready-Onion2532 · 2025-03-24T17:53:00+00:00

Sure, some women ignore obvious red flags and end up having kids with men who were always walking red flags. But a lot of women are straight-up lied to.

Some men present themselves as loving, responsible, and supportive partners until they no longer feel the need to keep up the act. The moment they feel secure (whether it’s after marriage, pregnancy, or just enough time passing), the mask drops. Suddenly, the guy who used to help clean, be affectionate, and act like an equal partner turns into someone completely unrecognizable, distant, bitter, even cruel. And by that point, the woman is already deep in it, often with a child to think about.

Acting like every single mother just made a dumb decision while the man bears no responsibility is beyond ignorant. Men who change like this exist, and pretending they don’t is just another way of shifting 100% of the blame onto women while letting men off the hook entirely.

Dingus1210 · 2025-03-26T22:39:49+00:00

I honestly don’t understand why anyone would believe ANYBODY could be suitable parents these days. Every male friend I know with a kid besides literally 2 of them are shitty fathers. Constantly coming up with excuses on why they’re always absent, in jail, partying, sleeping with other women. Tbh I’ve been wanting to have my own child since my balls dropped, but I honestly just think I’m going to end up adopting. Some of the single mothers I know (including the 2 I dated) were shitty parents too.

WrongReporter6208 · 2025-03-23T16:22:04+00:00

I don't think you can quantify blame like that. No single person can bear all the responsibility. I also think "blame
can be a somewhat abrasive and connotated word, and it's better to consider what factors led to the occurrence. We can use models like Bronfenbrenner's Ecological Systems Model to develop a nuanced perspective on the event.

Chaos-Knight · 2025-03-23T07:56:15+00:00

I happen to know two men personally who were just used as sperm donors that come with a monthly paycheck. As in - the women walked away immediately after they got pregnant and that was all on purpose. And these men weren't even rich, if anything rather the opposite.

I don't know a thousand people this closely, so it's kind of weird that I happen to know two guys this happened to.

I suppose the answer is: it takes two to make a kid, and also a working relationship, and either sex can fuck this up badly for everyone including the child and both sexes regularly do.

No-Description4322 · 2025-03-23T17:23:55+00:00

I think it is good to strip away the empathy people have for women as a default.

Its good to caution men against the possibility that the single mom who you think likes you might just like you for the stability you bring to her life and the potential support for her child. Frequently the dynamics evolve such that you are hepriority while she expects her to be your first.

Many women would do much more to give their child a better future (and that is when we are trying to imagine a good reason for why they would do this)

Women frequently discuss men in terms of the danger we pose to them and the existental threat we pose to the point there is a negative bias towards men

If men can do this to a subsection of women then the world is a more fair place

Title	Question about single moms that RP love to hate
Author	Ok-Luck-7499
Upvotes	35
Comments	27
Date	March 23, 2025 5:29 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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