Just had an incredible first date with a thin, gorgeous brunette in her early 30s. She gave crazy vibes (which were spot-on), but she's hot and I haven't gotten laid for way too long. And maybe I was too outcome dependent, but my goal was to have sex with her.

We met on Bumble, I got her number, and I was very deliberate to not text anything extraneous, so I think she was intrigued. Took her to a small dinner and drinks, and the vibe was AMAZING. She was touching me, flirting with me, making sexual jokes (how she's allergic to rubber, etc.), how her roommate was telling her not to tell me she was getting an Uber, etc.

After the first spot, we went to a rooftop for more drinks and hanging out. We were both a bit drunk, but at some point, I told her "I really want to kiss you right now" so she leaned in and we briefly kissed. The kiss wasn't anything special (good or bad), and it was also pretty short, not a makeout session or anything.

Anyway, after the kiss, the vibe took a complete 180. I was playfully trying to make some jokes about bringing her home, etc. (it was already 12am), but she was just NOT into it. She got an Uber and left, lol. I was just extremely confused, I told her I was confused, after being all over each other all night, didn't even hug goodbye.

I'm curious about what you guys think I fucked up and how to make sure it doesn't happen again. I thought my escalation was pretty good, it felt like she was very comfortable, but maybe I waited too long? 12am seems a bit late for making that kind of move. I'm very specifically trying to get more sexual experience with more women, and to be fair even going for the kiss a bit impulsively felt good (but obviously sex would've been nicer lol). I was also trying to kind of convince her to come over (joking around that she'd love my LEGO collection lol), which was obviously never going to work, but at that point I felt like I lost the game anyway so it was a Hail Mary.

Also, the second spot was nice, but extremely bright, and not super vibe-y. Usually, I'd take a girl to this dimly lit hotel lobby, where we'd pick a couch and cuddle and make out, but for some reason I chose this other place (because she'd been to it prior), which may have been another mistake.

I thought it may be anti-slut defense, but honestly this girl is such a huge partier (she literally lived in Ibiza partying for like half a year), so I'd be surprised if hooking up on the first date wasn't part of her repertoire (though maybe that's a bad assumption to make). And agian, the vibe was extremely "yeah we're going to fuck tonight" and then it just totally fizzled basically instantly.

Feel like this one really was mine to lose and I'm not even sure how I lost it.