How do I get a man?

MaxDureza · 2025-05-19T04:09:14+00:00

Location. Are you still in college or are you working? Are you in a rural or suburban environment?
Proximity. Do you have hobbies that make you go out and create situations where you can meet new people? Are you spending time in a group setting around the same men you are interested?
Looks. Do you take care of yourself and put effort into your appearance. Are you overweight? You do not need plastic surgery or cosmetic procedures. Natural is usually better.
Personality. Do you seem like an approachable person, or do you have an air of intimidation? Do you seem entitled in the kind of man you want or how you want to be treated? Are you holding onto past trauma or baggage making yourself emotionally unavailable?

HalfwaydonewithEarth · 2025-05-19T00:37:51+00:00

It is extremely hard. It took me a very long time.

The way to do it is be fit and in shape. Have long hair. Wear a dress or skirt most days with earrings.

Keep or remove all tattoos and dont wear jeans.

Smile at them.

Go for the nerdy simps. Forget the bad boys, F boys, and ones with emotional problems.

Do not sleep around or put out. The sub says you should but I didn't.

Enjoy their hobbies. Whatever they like is your interest.

Do not have a horse nose ring.

Wear makeup.

He will find you.

I hired a matchmaker.

WildCardWinner · 2025-05-18T23:30:58+00:00

Health >>>>> Cosmetics. Always and forever. Spend the time and money you’d put towards paint or surgery on a personal trainer. I guarantee you’ll get REAL results.

Especially considering you’re only 22, you have so much life ahead of you. Take the hard route. Everyone else is taking the easy route.

rubegoldberg_suicide · 2025-05-19T08:40:54+00:00

Unless you’re horribly disfigured in some way, big “no” on the cosmetic surgery. A woman with a plastic-y face is going to be a big turn off for a lot of men. Even just too much makeup is a big “basic hoe” indicator for a lot of men. If it attracts any attention, it will prob not be the attention you’re looking for.

Most men will notice your physique and then your face. They will not even look at the second one if they don’t like the first one. The second one has to be uniquely unsettling to invalidate the first one. A hot, tight body gives you a license to get away with just about anything. Thems the breaks. Your time is better spent if not becoming a gym rat, at least finding some sort of physical activity to get a tighter physique, as well as meet other people who aren’t couch potatoes (if you aren’t already).

I think women bully each other into trying to achieve the same matte, featureless Kardashian-face look. That’s simply one look that a segment of men will like. From a male perspective, it gives off “stuck-up boss babe with expensive spending habits.” If you somehow achieve that look (and not faded starlet plastic surgery monster), your mileage will vary in the type of attention you get from it. You might just get more scrotes who think they see an easy basic chick.

It is ok to have recognizably human facial features. In the face dept, the make-or-break thing is not so much whether you have a common nose or whatever, but probably rather whether you have life behind the eyes from being the type of happy, outgoing, active, high-quality woman that a high-quality man is looking for (as opposed to a 5 cm dead-eyed stare from having no mental life outside staring at Tik Tok and thinking about everything you think you’re entitled to, or whatever.)

HQM does not want dead weight in his life, he wants a woman who’s eager to do shit to make his life better. Start thinking through a very exact list of what you bring to the table. I think the correct outward ‘look’ tends to follow from getting active with whatever self-improvement habits you get busy with.

Widening your net for romantic prospects isn’t as impossible as internet-brained redditors seem to make it. Go outside. Do shit you’re interested in and want to become good at. Every real-life connection you form is someone who might be friends or siblings or coworkers with Mr. Right. Most of humanity has met their SO through the implicit vetting of a shared social network. If you think your play is more “Just put on a cocktail dress and hang around a yacht club,” make a post asking for advice on that.

Whether RP man or woman, the center-fold question is always: who’s your ideal mate, and why would they pick you?

TheLandBeforeNow · 2025-05-18T22:29:15+00:00

I’m a man. I wanted to reply to you to give you a pragmatic perspective.

Try the church. There are tons of men at the church. Travel around a few in your local area. Find one where there is a larger pool of single men. Don’t spend money on cosmetic surgery, when that wears off, your potential husband will feel like you’ve been lying to him.

Think more about the clothes you wear, how you do your hair. There are many things a man will look past if you put yourself together well. Stand up straight, smile, be pleasant, use perfume.

Maintain the confidence you have in approaching men you like, you’ll get one of them that are in the church.

Now, I understand wanting a high quality man, there is nothing wrong with that. But, you have to ensure that you are also a naturally high quality woman. Men will appreciate a woman who has dignity and respects herself. Learn how to be dignified in meeting and communicating.

You’ll do great!

VasiliyZaitzev · 2025-05-19T08:04:38+00:00

What is a "high quality man" vs "low quality man" in your opinion? What characteristics of each?

(im still saving up money for some cosmetic procedures)

Get a gym membership instead.

I have a patented 3 step approach for women who want a man:

A. If you are a bitch, stop being a bitch. (Not typically a problem for RPW.)

B. Do everything you can to improve your appearance.

C. Lower your expectations. 90% of men are not in the top 10%. The only thing - the only thing - that matters in a man is character. When you get that mammogram back with a suspicious spot on it, you want the man who will stick by you. That guy might be 5'9.

Bonus: Learn to cook (assuming you do not already know). I kept one gf around for at least 3 months extra because she could make an apple pie that (coincidentally; they never met) tasted exactly like my mom's. Behold the [NSFW: Naughty Language] Power of the Pot.

ydamla · 2025-05-19T18:24:05+00:00

What is a low/high quality man according to your definition?

Crazy-Lich · 2025-05-20T06:44:26+00:00

Just curious here,

What do you mean by "low quality"? What makes a man "low quality" in your personal views and opinions?

TheBunk_TB · 2025-05-19T12:43:50+00:00

Do you have RBF?

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blackbeardslim · 2025-05-19T04:04:35+00:00

Stay healthy (don't get fat and stay away from drugs)

Represent yourself well (don't be a hoe, make sure anyone can positively vouch for you)

Be a pleasure to work with and be around

Bonus: be willing to go up in age

AutoModerator · 2025-05-18T22:08:16+00:00

Title: How do I get a man?

Author Low_Lie5748

Full text: Hii, I know my question is very broad but im having difficulty attracting a good man.

Context: Im a 22-year-old female and I dont rlly interact much with guys, all my friends are females. On top of that although I have had many crushes and even approached some of them, I got rejected by all of them lol. (The ones who I think liked me were all low quality men.)

Rn im trying to work on my appearance a lott (im still saving up money for some cosmetic procedures) I want to know what else I need to change about my personality/perspective/approach/etc. to receive a high quality man?

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Callous-Person · 2025-05-22T12:56:35+00:00

I just found this sub Reddit and I am so glad to see a woman that just doesn’t settle for a low quality man and wants to max her potential

Callous-Person · 2025-05-22T13:57:33+00:00

I tried shooting a message to mod mail and to no avail . Why are you being an asshole

Middle-Spring7025 · 2025-05-25T14:44:56+00:00

Confidence is key. No surgery is necessary. I’m a 27F and when I was your age. I was having similar problems. I wasn’t confident enough, I am a plus girly , all my friends looked like models ( most actually were). So therefore always felt I wasn’t a top choice. I learned to love myself, everything. All the flaws. Now I’m in a good relationship, ( someone who saw more than just sex). Sometimes we feel like we need to change but the only thing is you need to love yourself. Find what you like and I can honestly say at 22 you may not know exactly what that is yet.

Calm-Lab-8592 · 2025-05-21T01:57:50+00:00

Do you really want this for yourself? You’re just going to end up with more disappointment than results.

Title	How do I get a man?
Author	Low_Lie5748
Upvotes	35
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Date	May 18, 2025 10:08 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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