When starting dating/a relationship, the pressure is usually on men to do almost everything. Women barely approach men, so men have to ask women out and are often completely at the mercy of the woman when they do. Men can be reported to someone of authority, shamed, intentionally humiliated, or deemed creepy if they do simply ask a woman out. There's also a real atmosphere in mainstream society where men are considered creeps and just trash in general for asking a woman out. Also online dating is absolutely brutal for men but let's not even get started there.

If a man is lucky enough to get a date (which would mean he's very lucky), society allows women to view him as inherently dangerous on that date (because 'male=bad'). On that date, if he splits the bill, he runs the risk of not being seen as 'a real man', and if he pays it all, does that make him a chauvinist?

In the dating, there's so much more risk for the man in engaging in romantic/sexual touch/kissing than there is the woman because a lot more people will take a woman seriously if she says her date/partner touched her without her full "enthusiastic" consent than they would a man. A man could constantly ask for consent before every single touch every time but how many women in reality would find a man like that sexy/smooth/confident enough to stick with, and even then a man might need to correctly mindread the woman to see if the consent is enthusiastic. When it comes to sexual touch, men often walk on eggshells and can't feel fully comfortable with someone who they're supposed to be very comfortable with.

Also if the man does some things that are in line with how he chooses to live but the woman disagrees with them, he could very well be accused of not respecting women (as a group lol). If a woman does something like that, barely anybody accuses her of misandry. Men are shamed for not treating a woman nicely but how often do we even say women should treat men nicely????