Be flaky to avoid flakes?

norwegiandoggo · 2025-06-05T17:09:40+00:00

It has pros and cons.

Pros: You already mentioned.

Cons: You will probably not be getting a second chance with the person you canceled on. So that's one opportunity potentially wasted. Another thing that typically happens is that you begin to wonder if you chose the right girl. You'll often experience FOMO / grass-is-greener feelings during the date. Last minute cancellations are also kinda rude and disrespectful of the other person's time.

You can actually avoid most flakes by doing some follow up like sending a message that you're "on your way" an hour before the date. And ensuring that she's invested in the date idea. If some part of the date plan was her idea, that shows she's at least somewhat invested in the plan.

sergiotorr · 2025-06-05T17:05:50+00:00

Bro if theyre flakey its because you don’t have a strong enough connection, just keep working at it, flakes happen to everyone not just you

front_torch · 2025-06-05T18:37:25+00:00

That is very insensitive. If you think this way none of those relationships will last anyways.

therealwoujo · 2025-06-05T18:09:53+00:00

Playing these kinds of games never works. If a woman feels rejected, its game over for you.

Nabbzi · 2025-06-05T22:11:19+00:00

Ive done this few times (mainly by accident) and its kind of stressful. Also it is time consuming to get one date. You need to text, arrange logistics and stuff. And doing double work knowing you will not have the double rewards is draining.
Also whenever i did the double date of course no one flaked lol.

PrinceDestin · 2025-06-05T22:55:14+00:00

Bro just reschedule with the one you will flake on

Half the time men have problems when women flake is because the woman doesn’t reschedule which means she’s not into you

People get busy reschedule and give her priority next time

liftingnstuff · 2025-06-05T17:10:59+00:00

Is it a good strategy? Sure if you don't care about flaking on people. Getting flaked on sucks. Be the change you want to see in the dating market. You can always just go out and do night game if a date flakes on you.

casualnext · 2025-06-05T17:36:15+00:00

Set up one earlier and one later go to both if you can

Either_Sundae6099 · 2025-06-05T19:30:05+00:00

It depends on the women. I have noticed that flaky women are generally more keen to meet, once you flake on them "who is this guy that can fob me off, most guys are desperate and needy, what makes him so special".

However, it will only work on "some" women. Yeah I have not done it the way you said, but have had to postpone dates before, then suddenly they really do take the lead in sorting out a date. In other cases, they just disappear as they feel rejected.

My normal approach, when it comes to dates, is to tell myself if she flakes, I will just go out and socialise regardless. That way I am not fussed one way or another. I am going to have fun with her or without her. "But I want to get laid" you say, well here is the paradox - the less of a fuck you give about being laid, the easier it is.

Anyway, that is my two cents. Better idea, field test it and post your findings and draw your own conclusions.

Cidaghast · 2025-06-06T01:10:26+00:00

Counterpoint if you have a date on Friday and the date on Saturday and go to both of them and neither of them like then you’ve gone on two dates instead of one

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-06-06T04:01:45+00:00

Don't do that. Setup a time and date and show up on time. If she does not, then you have to gauge her follow-up. If she appears genuine and expresses an interest to reschedule, sure. People have lives outside of dating. But if she backs out again, it's probably time to move on.

Shadow__Account · 2025-06-06T11:02:03+00:00

I mean if you are purely gaming. Canceling a date can be a strong tool. It shows a lot of non neediness, compared to a lot of guys that will double check or confirm the date which shows they are needy and expecting to be stood up.

From that perspective and logistically from a numbers perspective it’s smart.

From a human decency standpoint like you mentioned, it’s disrespectful and rude.

Far-End470 · 2025-06-06T12:13:36+00:00

Lmao. They flake because you didn’t set the hook well enough.

Anonymous-Man-2024 · 2025-06-06T15:06:04+00:00

Corn flakes?

AllRedditorsAreNPCs · 2025-06-10T11:15:08+00:00

Yes it's a good strategy, because that's precisely what girls do, so treat them the same way.

Title	Be flaky to avoid flakes?
Author	SensitiveBridge7513
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Comments	15
Date	June 5, 2025 4:59 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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