1. Detach from expectation. Don’t try to get a girlfriend, or a relationship. Have fun, treat each date as a chance to have fun and develop social skills. Things will develop naturally if you don’t put too much pressure on things

  2. Physical escalation/kino is absolutely crucial in building attraction. Light, subtle touch, especially with the hands. Try to the princess hand hold. If you’re nervous to try, playfully compliment her on her nails or jewelry, or ask if her jewelry has any significance to her.

  3. Logistics matter if you want sex to happen. Pick date locations near your place. Keep your place clean and have your shit together.

  4. Keep options open always. Until you’re in an actual relationship, don’t give relationship-level commitment

  5. Learn to Realistically gauge attraction on a 1-10 scale. Is she reaching out to you, is it easy to plan dater? Is she engaged and excited to be around you? If she is difficult to get a hold of, but only breadcrumbs, then she’s below a 5, not interested.

  6. Women will pull back eventually, even if they are attracted to you. They are going to evaluate long-term commitment to you at a point. This is where you DON’T get needy and spoil your guts to her. Stay the course, explore your other dating options, stay busy with your interests and purpose.

  7. Have an outgoing, social vibe wherever you go. Being seductive is a subset of having generally strong social skills. If you can strike up a conversation with strangers without getting nervous, your approaches will be less awkward and forced.

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