What should my dating strategy be?

burncushlikewood · 2025-07-03T04:06:02+00:00

It's really good you're taking action, and have the gym and the money down, a lot of men struggle with focusing on their academic responsibilities, and acquiring financial resources. Now my suggestion to you is to keep a log, read some books, watch videos and incorporate night game into your plans. Finding men to club with or going solo and doing approaches, night game situations are ideal because you don't have to do a ton of talking, it's more socially acceptable to approach in those situations and the opportunity to leverage some mystery method in your strategy.

HistorianOk2573 · 2025-07-03T12:48:41+00:00

- Eye contact/body language + approach

Women won't really give you any signs they want you to cold approach, not because they don't like the idea, but because they don't really expect a guy to cold approach them, so there is no point for them to give any signs. So you have to approach without them giving them any eye contact or anything. Or else, you won't end up approaching any of them.

- Make small talk for 1-2 minutes or so about the area around us, etc.

Bad move here. The point of a cold approach is to get to know the girl on a more personal level to see if you two connect, not talk about impersonal stuff like your surroudings or external things. A conversation should also last way longer than that, between 5-10 minutes at least because that's usually how long it takes to really create a solid enough conncetion for women to want to see you again.

- Be forward and tell her I saw her and thought she was attractive, ask for her number stuff.

This shouldn't be something you say after 2 mins of conversation about impersonal, you should say from the beggining of the cold approach that you are hitting on them, that you like them and want to get to know them. Because while you talk for 2 mins about the area, what the girl is thinking is why the fuck is this guy talking to me, what does he really want? Why is he pretending to care about the area?

There is a lot of tension if you keep talking about random stuff without telling her why, because she can feel there is an ulterior motive behind it all and she won't enjoy that. You need to be upfront about the fact that you are there to get to know her, not to talk about the area.

This doesn't mean you immediately start, saying that you want her number when you barely spoke for less than one minute. It means you tell her i want to get to know you because i thought you looked really nice and i would have regretted it, if i didn't see if we connect.

Then if she agrees to meet you, you show interest in who she is, what she does, how she feels about her stuff, and you share those thigns about yoruself too, and if you two feel like you have things in commun, similar experiences, similar feelings,... etc

Then after 5-10 mins that's when you might sugget to her "hey, you realized that we have so much in common? it would be a shame if we didn't see each other again, don't you think" and if she agrees, that's when you go for a number.

In other words, the number shouldn't be something you already want before you even meet her, because it needs to feel like it makes sense for both of you to see each other first based on the connection you have explored first for 5-10 mins. If you don't care about the connection and you go for the number, this feels off to women, because it makes them feel like you don't give a shit about them as long as you get your goal and it causes to reject you, give you fake numbers, flake on you, or ghost you.

StrikingImportance39 · 2025-07-03T04:12:01+00:00

So to find a wiling woman who will date u is surprisingly easy.

But to find the one who you genuinely like is hard. People spend years looking and still can’t find.

It’s very good that you relying on multiple strategies which considerably increases chances.

Also, skills you learn are transferable. For example if u are good at cold approaching on streets. Warm approaches for example at wedding becomes way too easy.

Similarly if I go out often let’s say to some events. Your online game will improve because you can take photos, add to social media. Etc.

However I would suggest approaching at least 3 -5 women per day. 1 woman per day is better than nothing but it won’t build skills.

Also. Don’t forget to approach guys as well in social events. Is not related to dating but to expand your friend circle.

The more friends u have the bigger possibility they will invite you in social events.

I remember I made friends with some guy at event. And he had VIP access to clubs. Which leads to access to higher quality women.

Also don’t do the same mistake as I did. Don’t neglect your health. This new lifestyle can be highly addictive. And don’t forget your original goal. Because once u start sleeping with lots of women having relationship will be like “meh”.

Anonymous-Man-2024 · 2025-07-03T04:48:18+00:00

When you document it like that you'll never follow it. Instead just go out in life and pay attention to the women who are receptive to you. From those women pick one. Look at the men around you that's your competition. The guy on tinder is pixels your real competition is in the real world.

The competition from guys in the real world is not as difficult as you may think. Most don't bother with their appearance, all wear drab gray sweatpants, some are overweight. In fact out there you will rarely encounter really chad like guys and if you do they may not have the energy that attracts women.

That is my experience.

Just go out there and don't get obsessed with it. Defining it as an algorithms is weird and only a weird person would do that.

Life-Income2986 · 2025-07-03T05:41:40+00:00

That strategy is comically bad.

I don't see why you think dating within 6 months is 'fair' when you don't even have a massive circle of friends. People don't even like to hang around you without sex. I'd concentrate on the easy stuff first.

When you get friends you won't have to do those embarrassing steps to babby's first girlfriend. You'll be far further along.

miyass_miyass · 2025-07-03T06:45:25+00:00

Getting three dates isn’t a terrible start

The thing with cold approach is that what you get out of 100 approaches really depends on your ability to show interest in some capacity and stay in set/go for the close. Doing 100 good-effort approaches is easier said than done for a total beginner, and you’ll learn more from boxing them into a shorter period of time rather than spreading them out over the year (and if you can’t do this many in a reasonable amount of time you have to work on your ability to open, stay in set and close by doing other warmup interactions). But it really depends on what your baseline of confidence is

3% meet to lay ratio is actually quite high btw

Affectionate-Ant4888 · 2025-07-03T04:03:30+00:00

you are working harder not smarter lol, I just will just repeat one saying, " a man should not have the right to hit on a woman unless she has shown indicators of interest" ; approach, SMILE !, do the opener and then demonstrate some value, and work from there.

Title	What should my dating strategy be?
Author	misterflocka
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Date	July 3, 2025 3:56 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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