Filled with hate and resentment I want her to attend counselling to try and bring the situation to one that’s mutually workable and ultimately use mediation.

She wants to hand lawyers $80K & have a contentious divorce to get what she thinks shes due having contributed nothing financially.

This is going on since Christmas, I’ve told her if she doesn’t agree to counselling I’ll be telling the children we are divorcing with or without her.

In their late teens they’re asking me what the situation is and deserve clarity.

She’s off conniving and planning and expects to treat me like shit and serve me when she’s done. It’s a really power thing for her. Before you suggest filing first there’s no benefit in my country of this.

Is this ultimatum taking things too far?