How do you take the pussy off the pedestal when you've never had any?

FrameWalker · 2015-10-30T17:38:01+00:00

Protip: not necessary to tell the girl you're a Virgin. She won't know the difference most likely

The-Ban-Hammer · 2015-10-30T16:53:49+00:00

Ferris said: Cameron has never been in love. At least nobody's ever been in love with him. If things don't change for him, he's gonna marry the first girl he lays. And she's gonna treat him like shit because she will have given him what he has built up in his mind as the end all, be all of human existence. She won't respect him. 'Cause you can't respect somebody who kisses your ass. Just doesn't work.

throwaway-aa2 · 2015-10-30T16:15:32+00:00

Think of it like a circle, and better than that, a rotary that you would get on with a car. Having a lot of pussy allows you to take it off the pedestal, and taking it off the pedestal allows you a lot more pussy. Basically when you're on the rotary, it's easy to stay on. But imagine that rotary with bumper to bumper cars. It's hard to get on. So what do you do? You elbow your way in anyway you can. This would look like interacting with a lot of different females even though they're still on the pedestal. Try not to think about whether or not you'll get it perfect. All you need to do is get IN. Once you're in, the positive feedback loop will keep you in. So just go out there, approach girls, talk to people, cold approach, get dates, get plates, etc. It's the same ol advice that's always recommended.

Apexk9 · 2015-10-30T16:11:45+00:00

Go fuck an escort.

[deleted] · 2015-10-30T17:26:23+00:00

Interestingly enough, some women at some ages seem to like virgin guys (easy validation) as long as the guys don't have the issues typically associated with virginity.

One way you can push through it is take home women you're not into but that are clearly into you. See if you get aroused by the situation and fuck her if you are. If not keep doing this until you find someone that does it for you. The abondance of even poor mates as a virgin will help in knocking the pedistal down in your mind.

Iseeacloud · 2015-10-30T20:16:32+00:00

Just learn. That's all life is. Make mistakes, be awkward, be afraid, get off too soon, whatever. Life is a journey and you'll be fine.

TRPTosser · 2015-10-30T17:39:01+00:00

You've never had any, so how do you know if you're missing out on anything? You're probably building it up to something its not.

metalfan20 · 2015-10-30T19:14:59+00:00

Actually this is a good question. The closest feeling that anyone could have to actually having sex is to get high. I'm not telling you to do drugs but if you have ever smoked pot than you have basically had the same feeling. The high affects the pleasure center of the brain in the same way an orgasm does. Knowing that sex becomes less valuable.

I am going to presume you're fairly young and still in your teens. Which is a time in your live where your sex drive will be at it's highest. It will level off over time. I've noticed my sex drive normalized in early 20's.

BucketOfSunshins · 2015-10-30T19:31:40+00:00

Why do you even put it on a pedestal. You don't even know what it's like.

plein_old · 2015-10-30T22:11:35+00:00

honestly it's harder once you've had some... particularly when you've had really, really good sex, it gets harder.

so you have nothing to complain about yet. :)

what can you do? just read some of the horror stories in TRP and focus on your own shit. women eat weak men for breakfast.

stickfiguresk · 2015-10-30T22:43:20+00:00

I know that neediness isn't going anywhere, so channel that energy focused on getting A female to getting TEN females; abundance mentality. You'll do fine. Don't sweat it.

Wear a condom.

Five_Decades · 2015-10-30T23:57:37+00:00

Start looking harder at women you aren't attracted to. Look at all the old, or ugly, or morbidly obese women who do nothing for you sexually. Think of all their flaws and imperfections.

Do the same thing with female friends, coworkers and family members that you aren't attracted to (I'd hope you aren't attracted to family members).

Men are like women, we ignore all but the minority of women we are attracted to. So start taking a long hard look at the women whose imperfections are glaringly obvious in women you aren't attracte dto.

[deleted] · 2015-10-31T03:12:07+00:00

There are three major ways, I'm going to list them from best to worst...

live it : as in get yourself some experience, where, escorts, fatty, whatever. It'll change your perspective and you won't have to lie, (lying is not wrong, many are just bad at it)
fake it: agree and amplify, flip the qualifiers, pua tactics, whatever you need to, fake it and own it. You could also redirect the conversation (building mystery if done properly).
be blunt and honest to a fault: yes I'm a Virgin. Haven't met the worthwhile woman yet. You may have to pull vetting buffs here, (they use me fit my money, my connections, my car, etc) but this could only possibly work in a very rare circumstance, either you have everything else going for you (danger, demand, cash, physique) or you are in the right place at the right time.

I suggest 1 or 2, not three. Three requires physical proof or amazing skills at fabrication.

The underlying message is that no matter who you are you need to recognize the are 3.5 billion women in the planet no one is important. Ever. The best way I know to do this is have abundance or fake it believably.

JackGetsIt · 2015-10-31T12:50:04+00:00

I haven't seen it first hand either

At all cost spend some more time around women. Any women. There vapidness and tediousness will become even more apparent. Also just drop your damn standards. Seriously. After you get the first few fucks out of the way you'll find women approaching you differently.

128bitworm · 2015-10-30T16:17:12+00:00

I used self hypnosis. Perhaps it can help you too.

buddboy · 2015-10-30T16:38:21+00:00

bang a girl from a bar in a one night stand when your kinda drunk?

Futdashukup · 2015-10-30T18:02:48+00:00

You need to fuck a fat chick. If you're a 6, fuck a 5 et.c If you're a 6 an 8 isn't going to fuck you.

Title	How do you take the pussy off the pedestal when you've never had any?
Author	let_terror_reign
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Date	October 30, 2015 4:01 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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