What's a key way to tell if she's only going on a date for your attention/wallet

Pantherist · 2025-08-20T06:23:42+00:00

Get them to come to a coffee place near yours. For 'decent' women it will give them an opportunity to decide if you're 'safe'. It won't be expensive for you really, and you can then take things from there.

No-Compote-2127 · 2025-08-20T13:53:04+00:00

From my experience its normal and even expected of women for a man to pay for dates on the first few dates. That being said if she is geniunly interested in you she will likely won't oppose a walk through a park or just chilling at some bar.

If she goes out of her way to pay for certain stuff or remembers to bring snacks or cooks and brings a lunch she is certainly invested in you.

Thats how my dates with my ex used to be. I suggested a movie night and pay for the tickets, she would buy the popcorn and drinks etc. If a girl is doing these things without you asking from them its a green flag

Winter-Confidence689 · 2025-08-20T06:25:26+00:00

Get coffee. Go to a dive bar. The date will cost you 10 bucks or so, which is not an amount that women will covet

Never dinner on the first date. MAYBE the second date if she slept with you.

easy. Do what you think will be fun for YOU

norwegiandoggo · 2025-08-20T08:30:19+00:00

Going on a date is how you find out what they care about. You communicate with them during the date. Women will ask a lot of "career / resource" questions if they care a lot about it. Some of them will demand a fancy date over a simple coffee date.

RazzleDazzle1537 · 2025-08-20T14:51:29+00:00

Suggest meeting up for coffee and go from there.

Ok-Class-1451 · 2025-08-20T06:42:38+00:00

If you don’t have any gold, it’s definitely not about that, lol. Only broke guys worry about this.

staier0 · 2025-08-20T07:27:13+00:00

Buying golddiger girls is a shortcut if you have money. Just be honest upfront. Winwin.

WhatsTheAnswerDude · 2025-08-20T11:56:13+00:00

Here we go again....a phone call before ever meeting up would help you confirm the overall vibe and then you can make the best choice...

Ordinary_Incident187 · 2025-08-20T10:06:50+00:00

If she doesnt pay or makes you pay fuck that

DreamShort3109 · 2025-08-20T17:54:00+00:00

Every woman is a gold digger at different stages.

IvanTheTerrible69 · 2025-08-20T17:07:59+00:00

Coffee date

You each pay for your stuff away and you get to weed out anyone who wants to use you

Title	What's a key way to tell if she's only going on a date for your attention/wallet
Author	somethinlikeshieva
Upvotes	9
Comments	47
Date	August 20, 2025 6:20 AM UTC (11 months ago)
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