How to go from sexual chat to meeting up?

Remarkable_Outside67 · 2025-08-29T14:33:22+00:00

Careful with this, man. I recently found out that those “sexy chats” often get passed around between girlfriends just for laughs. The girl I went out with showed me messages some dude was sending her friend.

My best advice? Don’t waste time with that. Suggest a specific plan: “I’m going to this place, if you’re free I’ll swing by and pick you up.” Once you’re face to face, she might act a bit “reserved”… or maybe not. Just take it step by step. If she keeps saying yes to everything you propose, boom—time for the next move

TMGP19 · 2025-08-29T14:22:30+00:00

Using you for attention with no true intention of meeting up. I would only escalate in a sexual manner in person. Move on and get many contacts, and use text to set up dates exclusively. You won't convince a girl to meet up if she has already out ruled that possibility.

devonwillis21 · 2025-08-29T14:24:00+00:00

Idk I honestly try not to start sexual chatting for the first interaction, 9 times out of 10 if a girl is into sexting she's doing it because she either can't or don't really want to meet up with a guy. If anything, try to get on a phone or video call before just texting all day.

AlastairXXL · 2025-08-29T16:06:58+00:00

If they are interested, they will meet up straight away bro

Prestigious_Water336 · 2025-08-29T22:43:58+00:00

I've never gotten this to work.

Just go to a party bar and approach a random woman sitting or standing alone.

poly_nerdy_panda · 2025-08-30T20:39:04+00:00

u never want to do sexual chats its pointless just tell them to come over and have some drinks

ImpossibleWaiting · 2025-08-31T18:09:40+00:00

Build a lot of comfort before going sexual.

InvestigatorFull1364 · 2025-09-01T01:11:28+00:00

It’s a bad strategy even if the sex chat goes well. When invite her out sounds exactly the same as a booty call now. Sure, there is a demographic for that, but the majority of girls prefer covert communication, ambiguity and adventure on the dates. You take out all of that, and her plausible deniability (she knows why she comes out)

Virtual_Ad_4817 · 2025-09-05T02:47:34+00:00

Sexual chat is overrated. You lose girls this way. They feel slut shamed and would never meet up irl after that.

Dandys3107 · 2025-08-30T13:57:17+00:00

Sometimes girl is just up for sexy chat for fun. If you feel there is something more than that, casually and naturally suggest some activity in real life circumstances "Hey, it's so good texting with you, do you wanna chat in real life?"

FixAccomplished9993 · 2025-08-30T09:43:14+00:00

Very lame and one way to put pressure on her.

You only want to meet once you have a guarantee of sex?

This is why I always aim to meet women on a data asap because you are essentially doing mental jousting to see who will crack.

If you can't handle losing her to get her in line to agree to a meet up then you won't gain her respect.

Also as someone said this is so typical. Every girl I've dated has shown me some creeps text bragging to her about his sex abilities trying to logically sell the sex. Any sexual tension you build via text works against you.

So unless you have a sexting kink and get a nut off, I suggest you just go direct for the meet up.

Title	How to go from sexual chat to meeting up?
Author	redagusto
Upvotes	4
Comments	11
Date	August 29, 2025 2:13 PM UTC (10 months ago)
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