When was it time?

Confident-Run-645 · 2025-09-12T18:14:18+00:00

I would be more than willing to bet you're being used and setup

You don't have a Wife? You've a parasite feeding and living off of you!

As soon as sha gets her nursing degree? She'll dump you like a bad habit.

NewDay0110 · 2025-09-12T06:31:03+00:00

Once she gets that nursing degree finished she's going to initiate the divorce because she can be independent now! Won't have a husband "holding her back".

(It happened to me exactly the same way, timing was about the same too!)

Fearless-Muscle-171 · 2025-09-11T23:56:33+00:00

Man, I get where you’re coming from. I’m 42, divorced twice, and I’ve had to start over more than once. I know what it’s like to carry almost everything on your own and feel like your effort isn’t matched. My third wife is a therapist so I get a sense of the perspective from the other side too, and I’ve learned that even with professional insight, the emotional and practical load can still be crushing.

It sounds like you’re already doing the right thing by talking to a therapist. Feeling frustrated and worn down doesn’t make you an overreactor—it makes you human. At some point, enough really is enough, and recognizing that before you hit a breaking point is important. Focus on protecting your energy and your sanity while figuring out what’s sustainable long-term for you and your kid.

Bagman220 · 2025-09-11T17:06:48+00:00

Yeah, I know what it’s like to work full time, and then have the kids full time at night. It’s exhausting.

I opted for divorce, I still work and then have the kids full time. But no woman is leaching off what I provide.

Idk man, figure it out, but be prepared to lose your kid half the time if you can even accommodate that working 60-70 hours a week.

Special_Profit4509 · 2025-09-11T14:38:08+00:00

Your dealing with people, they get burned out too. Look at how much time you will lose with your kid, your assets are gone after divorce.

I would set up to have couple counseling. If you're not being disrespected or unloved work it out. Depts are a part of life. How often do you put in the effort or does she put in the effort for the little things to show your importance or a team.

If possible set up a strategy to "divorce in filling only" have her declare bankruptcy. And work to get her nursing degree. Wile you stay together. If it does not get better your already divorce.

RiseNo3399 · 2025-09-11T14:29:37+00:00

Get a lawyer. Get your ducks in a row. Get out

RiseNo3399 · 2025-09-11T13:54:16+00:00

Baby trap. She’s going to get half of your shit once you actually establish boundaries and she kicks you to the curb. Stop busting your ass for someone who doesn’t reciprocate. You’re so young and will still have wonderful life with your son. And there are people out there you could be in relationship with that will actually respect you and respect boundaries you have.

Away_Anybody7268 · 2025-09-11T13:18:23+00:00

Have you talked to her about it? Not in an accusatory way or arguing about whose right or wrong but a how can we fix this together kind of way? You have to let her know you need her help with this. You definitely have resentment towards her and probably rightfully so, but definitely try to use “I” statements.

Can you afford a maid to clean once or twice a week? Or a few times a month? Or a nanny? Just some options.

Helpful-Paramedic463 · 2025-09-11T12:55:37+00:00

Could be postpartum depression. My ex had it after our 3rd kid and she was never the same after. I think it permanently altered her brain.

Whatever she has going on, address it now.

Title	When was it time?
Author	ziptiemyballs69
Upvotes	7
Comments	17
Date	September 11, 2025 12:49 PM UTC (10 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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