I went on a first date last night and I’m curious how other guys handle situations like this.

To be honest, I didn’t feel much of a connection — there were some long awkward silences. That said, she seemed respectful and interested enough. She never went on her phone once, we hugged up at the bar, my hands were on her waist and she rested her head on my chest, she was comfortable with me touching her. She even agreed to come back to mine afterward.

At mine, I put on a movie, gave her a massage, but she was resistant when I tried to take things further, so I left it there. Before she left, I asked if we’d see each other again and she said “I hope so.” I’ve learned women often just say things like that, so I take actions over words.

I got her an Uber home and told her to text me when she got in safe. She hasn’t texted, though I saw from the Uber she got home fine.

Also another thing whilst we was on the date she said she's never been in a serious relationship and she blocks guys very very quick she said if i didn't message her yesterday morning to see if the date was going ahead and messaged her at 3pm or so she would have not responded and blocked me i said i said its a two way thing she could have seen if it was going ahead also before making such a drastic decision she said you're the one that offered to take me out so why should she message it seems she likes to be chased. She also said good guys finish first with her she likes to feel loved and appreciated.

So my questions:

  • What do you personally say to a woman at the end of a first date?
  • If you tell her to text you when she’s home and she doesn’t, what do you do?
  • In this situation, whats your thought and would you follow up, or just leave it? (im cautious about people always saying just leave because i have seen some people give wrong and bad advice about that when something could be resolved with other solutions)