One of my best friends (let’s call her J), just got engaged to a Charlie Kirk-loving, trans-hating, red pill conservative and sees no problem with it. For context, we have been friends for over 7 years. We used to live together and we have always had a special connection. She started dating this guy about two years ago (we’ll call him T). When I first met T he was nice enough. He had a Joe Rogan sticker on his car and I remember thinking it was a red flag at the time and I pointed it out to her but she wasn’t concerned. They ended up moving in together after less than a year of dating and he moved her out to over 45 minutes away from us, all of her friends, and her family for a job that he ended up quitting a few months later. Since then, they have gotten into numerous arguments because he doesn’t trust her even though they’ve been together two years at this. He’s always accusing her of texting other guys or lying to her about guys she’s texted. I’ve always known that he was a Trump supporter. Per J, he didn’t vote in the last election but if he did, he would have voted for Trump. That in itself bothered me and we got into multiple arguments about it, but she just said, we don’t talk about it because I know who he is. Fast forward to the other weekend, he posts an instagram story, VERY red pill, talking about how the woke radical left are finally waking up and realizing that they’re the reason for all of the issues in our country. I texted her and asked why she is dating somebody like that and we got into an argument AGAIN. She said that she knows what their future will look like and that again, they don’t need to talk about it. Well, the other day she FaceTimes me and shows me a ring saying that they got engaged. Mind you, about two months ago they got into an argument because she told him she wouldn’t marry him at this moment because he didn’t have a job (he was fired). Now, she’s saying yes. To a conservative who reposts things in his instagram about how he loves Charlie Kirk, follows Turning Point USA, and Students4Trump. And who also doesn’t currently have a job. I’m just heartbroken. This is someone I knew who had strong goals for herself and now she’s with a man who idealized someone that said women shouldn’t be allowed to get degrees or work. She has a college degree and is the breadwinner of their house. I don’t know how to tell her that I do not want to be around him. I don’t want him or his energy around my partner or my future children. I’m just so disappointed and heartbroken and I don’t know how to tell her that I can not in good conscience support this union. I want to lay everything out for her and show her how this thinking will lead to toxicity in their relationship (and already has) and how you can’t build a life with somebody like that. What if they have children? Daughters? Part of me feels guilty though, because I want to support her and be there for her. But she’s been exposed to his way of thinking more than once and chosen not to care about it, so maybe she’s just not the person I thought she was. I don’t know how to be friends with somebody like that. Any advice you have would be helpful. Genuinely, I’m fighting between someone I love and preserving my morals and values which are extremely important to me. And I’m so torn and I don’t know what to do.