So, I am really having trouble wrapping my head around my concerns. I am getting divorced and there is no fixing the marriage at this point. They have already moved out and on with their lives. I am in my mid/late thirties and she is in early 30s. We were in relationship and marriage for approximately 10 years (marriage for about 3 of those years).

My concern is my can I "physically" have a kid. My concern is can I both meet someone who is able to have a kid realistically and is willing to date me long enough so we can make sure we are comparable. Since there is risk to her if we don't and now she loses time to find someone who she can have kids with.

I just don't know if anyone in the 20s would date me when I am bordering on late 30s now. Nevermind if it takes a couple to few years to find someone compatible and I am 40 then. I say 20s because of the risk of complications in births as a woman gets older.

I feel I just wasted both her life and my life. She really wanted a family and so did I. She is the one who ended the marriage though, I was willing to work through our issues. No cheating or abuse involved.

I know where I could have improved in the relationship to make her feel better, but I also know where she could have improved also and was failing too. I was willing to try to work through things. She was not. Now we get divorced.

Having a family is important to me. Now I feel I lost my chance. I also feel I potentially ruined her chances biologically of having a kid now that she is single in early 30s and at risk of not finding someone in time to have a kid. I feel horrible I played a role in that. I'm not sure I can get over playing a role in that if she is not able to have a kid.

Help?