This is an open ended question regarding a phenomenon that's lightly out of the norm, I suppose.

After all, the presupposition here is that men always chase varied sexual opportunity like a laser, but I wonder about whether the inverse thing is a growing phenomenon.

That is, to entertain strong connections, nudging and churning those a little bit, knowing full well you give off the impression that things will happen, even though it's never said outright.

But you already know you won't go there. It's not even what you're after. You just want "attractiveness confirmed" and "they would bang me if I allowed it", and that's all you're after.

I've done this alot actually. I started late, dated around for a limited time and was then in a committed relationship. Past peak hormone, sex itself matters less, but regaining the sense that you're a catch, that you could absolutely kill it if you wanted to, it means something. PS: I stopped doing this completely, a couple of years back, when we became parents.

Some say, this kind of coquettish behavior is very bisexual and yeah, for me that tracks. I definitely did this thing with men and women both.

Now, I wonder how common that is. And it seems to me that guys of younger generations are now more reserved, complex, reflective and autonomous in many respects.

Is this behavior on the rise? Or was it, and always will be, a strange little anomaly?

Did you ever do it yourself?

Also for the women here, have you encountered this behavior?