Let me briefly introduce myself.
I’m 25 years old, and so far I haven’t had much success with women. I didn’t grow up around girls and was never really part of female social circles. Because of that, I never fully developed the skills to comfortably connect with them – especially in the early stages.

That said, I’m actually a very open and extroverted guy.
When it comes to social events, especially parties, I can easily make friends with other men and talk for hours without running out of things to say.
Approaching women is no longer my biggest problem – I’ve worked through that fear. But where I still struggle is right after the approach. Once I say “hi,” I often freeze and don’t know what to say next or how to steer the conversation in an engaging way.

I’ve been on five first dates, and honestly, I did quite well there – I stayed relaxed, didn’t freeze, and had good conversations.
However, things didn’t go any further, and I now realize it was because I didn’t create that spark or sexual tension.
I’ve been studying how to improve in that area and now understand what needs to be done to build attraction more effectively.

But the main issue remains:
When I meet a girl I don’t know – especially at parties – I still don’t know what to say after I approach her.
I don’t want to ask boring questions like “Where are you from?” or “What do you do?” – it just feels empty and lifeless, more like a job interview than a flirtatious conversation.

On the bright side, I’ve been actively working on myself:
– I joined salsa and social dance classes this year and got comfortable dancing (even though most women there are 45+ 😄)
– I’ve built a great physique through fitness and discipline
– I’m considering trying Tinder, but my goal is really to meet women in real life – through energy, presence, and real conversation

So my question is:
What are some ways to keep the conversation going after a cold approach?
How do I avoid freezing, and what are some engaging, playful things I can say or ask to build connection and flirtation – especially in party environments?

Any tips would be really appreciated.