How to approach girls?

hwillis891 · 2025-12-15T09:27:21+00:00

I would say the best way to approach girls is to think of it like diving in a freezing cold pool for the first time. You’re scared to do it because it’s going to shock your system, but afterwards you can basically “dry off” or stop and give yourself a break.

Memorizing lines is cool and all, but I think the better way to approach women is to say “excuse me, I just want to say you are stunning/you have great style/I couldn’t let you pass by without talking to you” introduce yourself, and do small talking things for a little bit. Then either move her to another location, or get her number.

Make it really simple for yourself, and make it clear to her your intentions. You may fail a lot at first, and that’s ok, but you have to think of getting girls as a skill that can be honed simply though trying and talking.

Sure, you may get some girls who reject you, and possibly reject you harshly. But the old saying goes “the silent don’t get fed.” You won’t get laid if you don’t try, and discipline yourself into trying.

As long as you aren’t disrespectful or creepy, where is the harm in trying? Take a risk, and see what happens.

Prestigious_Water336 · 2025-12-15T09:23:54+00:00

Always comment first about what she's doing or looking at or the place.

Then introduce yourself.

Then make some small talk for a little bit.

Then ask for her number

entitledwank · 2025-12-15T09:16:43+00:00

write down the liens and memorise them. cold approach is a skill. it’s gonna require practice

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-12-15T18:38:14+00:00

Do you not find anyone else interesting? Treat each approach as an opportunity to meet a new person. If you don't end up going on a date, so what. Don't think of this as a win or a loss. Dating is not boxing or a video game. Any time you're putting yourself out there and being social is a win.

Virtual_Ad_4817 · 2025-12-15T23:55:22+00:00

The opener doesn't matter. All guys who are good at game know this.

No girl is like, "Well I would have slept with him but his opener sucked."

And no girl is laying in bed with you like "oh man, that opener... that's the reason I slept with you."

Just open the conversation. That's all you need to do. Even hi works.

ImpossibleWaiting · 2025-12-15T10:25:16+00:00

Women are visually abundant. You can just look at her and say stuff about her. They love talking about themselves (most people do).

Preferably you'll do it extremely slowly and in a teasing way. If she looks like a chipmunk, you can say that and tease her. Look at her, approach, get her attention, give a statement of empathy (I know this is weird/unexpected), show intent (I wanted... To say... That... You look like...), tease her (like a chipmunk! You have these cute round cheeks when you smile), ask an open-ended question or cold read her and gradually let her talk about herself.

To build sexual tension, eye fuck her. To release sexual tension, relax and laugh and smile with your eyes and listen to her. Smug smile is key.

Hooking her attention is kind of like fishing. You have to keep her interested and the pressure high, but not so much so it breaks the line.

If you have fears, work through them. The Fearless program by RSD Max is helpful for that.

Then read Daygame Mastery by Krauser.

Commissar_David · 2025-12-15T17:01:23+00:00

What I find helps me in those situations is to keep an eye on my peripheral vision and if I see someone glancing over to me I approach and find something to say about their outfit, drink or something tied to the context. Like last Saturday I was freezing, so I approached a fire pit and simply asked if it would be ok to warm my hands here then I joked about my hands and went from there.

In my case, everyone was either taken or in a closed off group. But it made for some good practice.

epimpstyle · 2025-12-15T22:06:33+00:00

I have no idea what to say, like zero idea apart from ‘hi’.

You need to create a context to talk, otherwise it looks creepy. For this reason, there are a few routines/gambits that help you generate a topic to talk about out of thin air.

- if you are a social person with good social skills, you won’t need routines/gambits. But from the way your post looks, you’re not that strong in this area, so you fall into the next category.

- if your social skills are below average, then it is almost impossible to keep talking to a girl, because after the opener you will run out of things to say. That’s why you need some ideas to overcome this obstacle and that’s where "gambit openers" come in.

Halo_Sports · 2025-12-24T03:02:28+00:00

Make her feel Important

Title	How to approach girls?
Author	uno82
Upvotes	36
Comments	14
Date	December 15, 2025 9:13 AM UTC (8 months ago)
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