Are 3șum even a real thing?

AppointmentLeather · 2025-12-17T20:46:21+00:00

Yoooo

My brother got one with a bi girl and her bi curious gf

Girl 1 was cute. Worked in a book store,. Argued with her about a book for a few minutes and was like "we can discuss this more but not right now, give me your number let's meet up for coffee"

She's down, date goes whatever ok.... Hits him up later asking if he would be interested in potentially playing with her and her gf !

Score!

Except her gf is fat as hell and like precious black lol

So he got it, and had a bad ish time 😆

But drugs.

Drugs would have solved everything, no inhibitions lol

However, there's a decent chance that they create more problems than they solve.

I also experienced a lot of slutty girls in restaurants, always staying up late, always spending money poorly and "experimenting"

So you could work a bartender job and go out 2-3 nights a week, it will happen that way if you want it too and people genuinely like you.

Whenever you go out with Co workers you have social proof and a posse, 3some sooner or later!

I'm in Vancouver Canada

Thierr · 2025-12-17T21:24:23+00:00

Very real and easy once you're used to it. Much easier after 30 though.

beansandbread · 2025-12-17T21:34:36+00:00

You’re coming at this all wrong.

First, don’t anticipate or try to push for it. Most women are gonna be a no, and if you find one that is a maybe and bring it up more than once, they’re probably gonna be outta there sooner than later. It comes off creepy, thirsty, and kink chasey.

Second, you’ve gotta have way more than “decent game” to even establish enough rapport with two separate people to have a threesome. AND not have it cause drama or be weird for at least one person involved. It takes emotional maturity, extremely high physical and sexual confidence, and everyone bringing an attitude that is open and void of expectations.

Take it from someone who has swung and had plenty of fun experiences, if all of those things aren’t present, it can cause DISASTER and will bring a lot more issues than it’s worth. Even in a casual setting.

StationMental2176 · 2025-12-17T20:20:11+00:00

yes g but u need to master the vibe to get it

Prestigious_Water336 · 2025-12-17T21:10:06+00:00

You gotta find someone that's comfortable having sex with another couple. Not exactly easy to do.

I'd love to try it with 2 other women but I've had no success.

SeaBass1898 · 2025-12-17T21:30:18+00:00

Definitely a real thing, but a lot of things have to align to make it happen.

No-Buy7459 · 2025-12-17T21:33:42+00:00

Me, my bi fwb and her friend were in a cab dropping me off in the way. Before the cab we were clubbing where they both were making out the entire night. And i was making out with my fwb. Her friend told me almost 5 times that my fwb told her i had a big dick. I had also taken naked pictures of my fwb and she said she also wanted a photoshoot. Coming to the cab ride, everyone was high af. She started jerking me off in the backseat about when we were 2 min from my place, while her friend was sitting in the front. She canceled the ride at my place with the excuse that her friend had to piss at my home (her friend didnt even say she had to). We came to my home, watched the view and I dropped both of them in a new cab and they left. In summary to get a threesome you need a girl whos bisexual and sex positive whos your fwb. Plus the kind of women my bi fwb liked i would never have a threesome with as she like masculine looking girls. I have slept with almost 150 women and none of them are happy with the idea of a threesome. I understand their POV as Ill puke if i had to do a MMF. And the guys who get girls who like to share, they would never leave them as its very rare to find them. So the only way it to get lucky with a LGBT girl or be INSANELY good looking.

Less-Manufacturer536 · 2025-12-17T21:55:56+00:00

I had one with my ex gf at the time and her bi best friend/gf at the time turned very messy and fucked up all hope of getting back with that girl and her best friend cut her off super messy all together but worth it and fun definitely being inebriated helps

TheDaftPunk · 2025-12-17T22:30:52+00:00

I heard an interview with Bam margera where he said threesomes are having sex + math problems.

"I gave her 10 pumps but then gave the other 30 pumps so I need to add back 20 pumps the next time..."

HugeBeazy · 2025-12-17T22:44:18+00:00

I’m 24 and I met two different early 20s solo travelling girls on a Greek island in the same day while I was also solo travelling. They both just happened to be my nationality and semi-bi and most importantly into me. We got drunk that night and booked a ferry to another island, and an apartment for just the three of us.

We all weren’t sure what was going to happen until they were both snuggled up to me on the bed while we watched a movie on my laptop…

I was so fed up with travelling at that point that I was in a rare mindset of just not caring about meeting new girls and I treated them as such. I think that helped.

It all fell apart the next day when one of them thought I was preferencing the other and got really brittle.

Ultimately though it’s just luck and circumstances. You can influence your position but that’s only 1/3 of the components required.

ChicoBrillo · 2025-12-17T22:49:49+00:00

the male fantasy, two women and one man threesome isn't very easy to come by, there's a reason they refer to the third as a "unicorn".

MMF probably a lot easier but obv that's less fantasized about.

I'm sure it's a lot easier if you're bi

CraPixelArt · 2025-12-17T23:15:29+00:00

tldr: have 2 chill bi fwbs who find eachother attractive

I had a bi fwb for a while who's super chill. We've talked about threesomes before so I know she's open to it

Then I had a cooking date w/ another girl. we ended up having "cooking dates" like 4 times that week. She seemed to give serious vibes so I told her hey, I don't want kids (something she wants) so anything with us is just casual. She said she wasn't sure about casual at first but really liked the sex so wanted to keep going.

On a date we were watching sex and the city, a show she loves and I just started. Coincidentally the threesome episode plays and she asks me if I ever tried/wanted a threesome. Revealed that she's bi and has done it years ago. So I showed each fwb the other's pic, they thought eachother were attractive so we arranged a threesome.

It was a lil awkward when we all met at the apartment, they're both shy. They had some alcohol (I don't drink) then I had a great idea of playing spin the bottle, first for making out and then to touch eachother.

Afterwards it went pretty smooth and now we meet every weekend. Never in my life did I think I'd be doing this but it's fun. I just started dating this summer and I've slept with less than 10 people. Got lucky

aphronono · 2025-12-17T23:20:55+00:00

Learn how to be attractive, grow thick skin, go to southeast Asia and party, play a drinking game, kiss a girl ask her if she is into threesomes, if yes go look for a girl you both think is hot and ask her. If rejected try again tomorrow

Pure_Fault7056 · 2025-12-17T20:24:54+00:00

Probably need alcohol in some large quantities.

PuzzleheadedNote3 · 2025-12-17T22:09:11+00:00

The girls ive known to do it are the ones going through a spiral have drug abuse issues mental health issues in my 20s. Even then having a bi friend is what ive seen work.

Title	Are 3șum even a real thing?
Author	InvestigatorNo7573
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Comments	23
Date	December 17, 2025 8:17 PM UTC (7 months ago)
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