Do women flirt with you when you’re out and about?

Former-Floor9376 · 2026-01-06T11:17:15+00:00

If they are the ones initiating, that means the value discrepancy is heavily in the guys favor. Because the girls can do nothing and guys of equal value (or more) will initiate first.

In short girls might hit on you, but usually it will be the worse ones in your range.

Not even to mention, by them initiating (and you following up their lead), you already give up the frame, which can hurt later on

mraees93 · 2026-01-06T12:50:24+00:00

Yes with choosing signals

Tall_Following_ · 2026-01-06T11:06:17+00:00

Nope, not to my knowledge at least

Long8D · 2026-01-06T17:03:55+00:00

Yes, but not in a way that they'll walk up and try to get my number. You really have to be breathtaking for that to happen. They'll shoot their shot because the opportunity cost of NOT shooting it is too high and they don't want to let someone that attractive slip away.

But if you're not at that level (and let's be real, most of us aren't), you need to focus on reading body language.

The key difference is even when these signals are there, you still need to be the one to make the move. She's giving you the green light, but you have to actually drive through the intersection. She's interested, but she's waiting for you to ask for her number, suggest hanging out, or escalate the interaction.

there's always some level of attraction happening, but most women aren't going to go out of their way to make it obvious or do the work for you. They'll show interest, but they won't chase. That's just how it works for most guys.

So yeah, for most men, it's not going to happen. I get tons of stares, but they never escalate to anything more than that unless it's at a club and they get very very close. If it's outside of clubs/bars then I have to go in and do all the work lol

jackthehat6 · 2026-01-06T17:28:17+00:00

it's uncommon. i.e it only happens to very good looking dudes etc. I have a very good looking friend, and he's always getting blatantly checked out in bars and sometimes even approached. In places like gas stations etc, the girl working will always try to flirt as he's paying for his gas etc

Certain_Process_7657 · 2026-01-06T22:30:59+00:00

Only the most obscenely handsome or famous men regularly get flirted with by women. The rest of the 95% men have to be the ones to initiate.

I can count on one hand how many women even remotely flirted with me first in my life. And I have a high double digit body count. All were from me initiating.

WebNew9978 · 2026-01-06T16:42:43+00:00

Hell no they don’t. If anything, they’ll flirt with every guy around me except me (whenever it does happen)

bonvoysal · 2026-01-06T19:12:56+00:00

Out and about? Nah man. Maybe at a bar, once.

But out and about, I only know two guys who that happened to, and those two dudes were extremely good looking. Women would come up to them, give their phone number and say, call me when you want to fvck me. Straight up as that.

Also, b/c of them, learned that the women on dating apps who say, not here for hookups, will hookup with you as long as you're good looking! Tough life for those of us who are average or below average looking!

kev1nshmev1n · 2026-01-06T14:35:48+00:00

Yes. Sometimes. They’ll usually do something or position themselves in a way to draw your attention, they’ll make themselves standout to you in the social context you find yourselves in, and give you space and opportunities to approach and engage with them. Sometimes they’ll randomly come up and start talking to you, in a way that sounds like they are grasping for straws, trying to find something to talk about usually for the purpose of showing her interest in you and has the potential to be flirty, usually indirectly. Whether she is or isn’t trying to flirt, the trick is to notice this and respond in kind, if she sees that you have caught on she will escalate in sometimes subtle but creative ways. It’s never a for sure thing, ever, but in any situation whether you approach or she does, you should always be vibe checking her, because that’s what she will be doing to you. When you are both reading each other in the right way, there is nothing likeit. It’s that frame of mind she enters, that is really what she wants to experience, where you actually give her room to flirt in her way instead of you trying to impress her with your intelligence and humour. Your job is really to stoke the fire by giving her more things to respond to in the way you talk to her and the way you let her read your reactions without you literally saying what your thinking or feeling, she can tell. In my experience women are much better at escalation and flirting than I am, and when they have an audience in me, things really take off. In this way, she will say and do things, where she’ll go back to her girlfriends and say, “I can’t’ believe I said this and did that when he….”.

rcspinster · 2026-01-06T14:50:44+00:00

Hells no

CraPixelArt · 2026-01-06T16:06:31+00:00

i've only had one girl flirt with me in my life and I flirted back. we exchanged instas, briefly messaged, but then she stopped responding. so, yeah once I guess

usul213 · 2026-01-06T20:03:27+00:00

very seldomly and i dont normally realise until its far too late

Fidel__CashFl0w · 2026-01-06T20:53:00+00:00

Yeah but I don’t realize it until I get home and I’m laying in bed

Shoddy-Lingonberry-4 · 2026-01-07T17:51:06+00:00

They .mostly give off choosing signals

But when you are close, they do make random comments sometimes but it's rare.

Mostly they just look and orbit around.

badabing654 · 2026-01-09T04:09:22+00:00

Women have zero game, her idea of flirting would be standing near you in the bookstore

Title	Do women flirt with you when you’re out and about?
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Date	January 6, 2026 11:03 AM UTC (6 months ago)
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