One of my plates is having sex with other dudes. I don't really care cause I'm not dating her, but what bothers me is that she is lying about it. What's a better idea, I just fuck her and immediately walk out or cut contact with no explanation?

FrameWalker · 2015-12-01T12:24:20+00:00

Some put a harsh one way exclusivity requirement on their plates. It works for them. I haven't tried it, I don't want to go through the effort of verifying. The plates I spin aren't LTR material, a d the effort and emotional investment required to check on fidelity is too much. I am happiest when I assume mutual nonexclusivity and fuck multiple girls with abandon. Yeah I don't like th at they fuck other men, but I like not having to wonder and worry more

Unless exclusivity is explicitly discussed don't assume it

0io- · 2015-12-01T14:40:11+00:00

Practice safe sex! Do you plate girls because you value their amazing honesty or do you plate them for amazing sex?

I agree with the advice to keep pushing for more sexual stuff, use her to fulfil whatever fantasies you have.

I personally wouldn't get mad at someone in a non-exclusive relationship for doing what she's doing. Maybe just try to figure out what she's not getting from you and step up your game so that you out-Chad the other guy.

Maybe she thinks he's OK with her kinky side and thinks you're not or something. "Chad loves that I'm bisexual but I'm afraid you would think I'm a slut if I told you that."

Try something like mojoupgrade with her?

Kick that oneitis out of your mind, Brother!

I've had a similar thing before but the other guy was Billy Beta and she knew I wasn't going to get married. One of my friends said "he's doing all the work and you're getting paid!" She would go out to fancy dinners with this other rich guy who wanted to marry her and then call me up to get laid. I would find out more about what's going on before you decide to dump her or whatever. It's safe to assume that all of your plates will go behind your back and lie to you, so you have to protect yourself.

If you're getting your needs met from the relationship, I would keep it going, personally.

103342 · 2015-12-01T09:18:25+00:00

I went through that exact same situation. Found out a girl a was fucking was also fucking 2 other guys. I never really told her I knew. She was a fucking sociopath, VERY manipulative but the sex was awesome so stuck around for a while after finding out.

I just tryed pushing shit sexually to the point were I was done with her. It still didn't end very well and I went no contact.

My tip to you is to just try to push things sexually and don't give a fuck about her. Try filming that shit, deep throating her, ass to mouth, cum on hair w/e lol. It will make you feel better after when you eventually go no contact.

[deleted] · 2015-12-01T11:16:32+00:00

Haha, if it bothers you to the point of coming onto Reddit and making a post about it, then cut the bitch off and put another one in rotation.

NiftyDolphin · 2015-12-01T14:47:02+00:00

You come off as butt-hurt and wishing to punish her. Your focus is on how to correct her actions. Let that go. Trying to control other people actually gives them control over you.

You want her gone. Let her be gone. Trying to punish her for something so trivial (it's trivial because she's a plate) is a waste of your resources.

niczar · 2015-12-01T11:23:28+00:00

What is the desired outcome?

wehadtosaydickety · 2015-12-01T23:43:38+00:00

Can you take a moment to assess whether you really care? When I started spinning, I got a jealous feeling when a girl hinted at fucking another guy. I took a step back and realized I didnt give a fuck about her and the jealousy was just a habitual reaction.

I do drop them if they put it in my face too much, its disrespectful.

smvking · 2015-12-02T05:20:00+00:00

If it bothers you, you are probably emotionally invested in her.

Don't seek revenge, keep enjoying her pussy if you want. I would personally let the ball be in her court. Don't contact her until she hits you up first.

mksu · 2015-12-01T08:21:21+00:00

Women lie all the time, water is wet.

fphtrp · 2015-12-01T08:58:28+00:00

Do you want to fuck her and walk out or stop talking to her? Ask a proper question, no one here knows enough to tell you what to do.

You have to make a choice, stick to it and stop asking stupid questions. Do whatever it is you need to sleep at night.

loin_fruit · 2015-12-01T19:35:54+00:00

She doesn't owe you anything, you don't owe her anything man. You can't be upset that she's trying to play the same game as you. You guys are plating each other. Just have fun and don't look into it anymore than you and her having sex.

Apanthropos · 2015-12-01T09:24:01+00:00

As long as you are fucking her, she is a plate.

If the lying part gets you, then lie to her back. Tell her that you are not fucking other girls.

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