I’m in a situation I never thought I’d be in. My wife has been unfaithful to me – for the third time. After the last time, we went to couples therapy, and I genuinely believed we were in a better place. We weren’t. I’ve now accepted that we’re getting divorced. We have two children, shared finances, and a shared house with a garden (bought 1.6 years ago), plus two cars. Neither of us can afford to keep the house on our own, so it has to be sold. The problem is that it’s the middle of winter, the house is large, the garden is a real asset – and the timing feels terrible. I’m still emotionally affected (waves of shock, grief, and anger), but I’m also very focused on handling this in the best possible way for the kids. We’re currently discussing a 6/8 custody arrangement, and communication is relatively calm, but trust is obviously gone. My main dilemmas are: Is it worth “holding on” a bit longer to sell the house in spring and possibly get a better outcome? How do you take care of yourself mentally when you have to be a parent, a co-parent, and at the same time process a major betrayal? Looking back, what do you wish you had done differently early in the process? I’m not looking to assign blame. I’m just trying to navigate something that is both practically complex and emotionally overwhelming – and to do as little harm as possible to my children and myself. If you’ve been through something similar, I’d really appreciate hearing your experiences or perspectives.

From Denmark if it helps