Little backstory so you can get an idea of how your life compares to mine. I’m 21, 5’9” skinny, introverted by default, above average face, moved far from home at 18, to a small town, by some college towns. never been to college and genuinely had no social circle after the move and little luck with women from age 18-20. Body count was 3 when I moved at 18.

I’m gonna give you guys the important lessons I learned over the last 3 years instead of the stupid ai written advice you usually see on here. This is also all the useful stuff I’ve learned from communities like this and tested.

Tinder has always been my main method of pulling, hinge used to work better for me prior to getting banned. I think hinge works a little better if you aren’t the best looking.

First year on my own 18-19:

Could get a mid to low tier girl to hook up with maybe every 5 months. Basically luck. Tinder profile sucked. Was still quiet with women, wasn’t good at talking to them. Text game was atrocious. Went from doing what I thought you were supposed to do (asking them questions about themselves, being genuine) had no luck, then just started saying whatever I wanted because at least that entertaining to me at the time even if I wasn’t getting dates.

19-20 got a girlfriend, cool girl, not super hot but not ugly, still pulled her off luck with my shitty tinder. I’m the type of guy that was weird and just said whatever I wanted and it doesn’t work with 99% of women but some dig it. Realized none of her friends liked me, which had always been the case with female friends in high school too. I always lowkey weirded them out. I always thought it was them, but looking back IF THIS IS YOUR EXPERIENCE: USE THAT TO REFLECT. YOU PROBABLY SAY WEIRD SHIT AND ARE OFFPUTTING.

Around turning 20 girlfriend broke up with me because I didn’t pay her much attention, but we’re still great friends. No big deal.

20-21 is where the majority of my learning happened.

Here’s the crucial tips I would’ve went back and told myself at 18.

  1. Your tinder profile sucks ass. Mirror pics are a turn off. 1 max. Get a picture of yourself with one of two women and that will help a ton. Get a picture of yourself doing one of your hobbies ( for me it was guitar, motorcycles, working on cars, sitting at a coffee shop reading) this kind of thing will help them see you as interesting and, is a little social proof since you got somebody to take a picture for you. No bio is probably better than whatever you come up with. This one is bigger than you think, I went from 1 ugly-mid girl match a week at 19 to usually around 5 hot girls a day now, maybe 10 if we’re including the mid ones.

  2. If you’re young, genuinely just give yourself some time to figure yourself out, most guys are awkward at 18, don’t have their look figured out yet, aren’t comfortable with themselves. I personally needed to grow my hair out, and give up on the mustache I was trying to grow, It also took some time to figure out my style and what clothes looked good on me. If you aren’t getting confidence from pulling women, get confidence from being good at your hobbies.

  3. Play their game. I was hard headed I liked to do my own thing. After lots of reflection smoking weed alone (weed can actually be a huge tool for self reflection. It allows you to see yourself and personality from an outside perspective) I realized I was generally a smart ass, wasn’t very nice, didn’t compliment women because I thought it was corny, wouldn’t sweet talk them for the same reason.

  4. Dont hesitate in conversation, just say what you want and say it loudly and confidently. and be mindful of how what you’re saying is making them feel.

  5. Understand the tinder algorithm. Don’t ever pay for it. Either you have it or you dont. Paying wont help. Every time you swipe right and it’s a match, you get shown to more girls. Every time you swipe right and it’s not, you get shown to less. So understand what types of girls like you and what don’t. After 3 years on tinder, with about 95% accuracy I can tell what girls will be a match and what won’t. Don’t swipe on the girls you won’t match with.

  6. Smile more, be happier with yourself.

  7. NEVER be needy. Women are abundant

  8. Get out there. For me it was getting drunk and going to local band shows and doing a little foot shuffle dance. If you’re dressed well and having more fun than the majority of people in the room you’re going to be the one women there are attracted to. And a ton of cute girls go to shit like that in college towns.

After making the necessary personality changes, even my exes friends who used to hate me, after hanging out in a group with them recently have admitted that I’ve had a glow up, and we all have had a good time together. Now I could get an easy 2 dates a weekend. I’m rejecting more girls on tinder than I’m even messaging, Usually I don’t have to text first.

Could come up with more tips for you guys but this one’s already pretty long.