Opinions please

RelationshipIcy2226 · 2026-03-13T15:12:51+00:00

Honestly, I’ve been in the same spot after my divorce, and my first instinct was resistance too. At the start, those “no overnight partners” rules feel protective like they give you some control and stability while everything is still raw.

But after a couple of years, you realize things have changed. People move on, relationships get serious, and you can’t control each other’s personal lives forever. For me, the thing that mattered most wasn’t the overnight part it was not knowing the person around my kids. Once I met them and saw they were stable and respectful, it felt a lot less threatening.

TBD112017 · 2026-03-11T02:06:27+00:00

You’re fighting a losing battle. Focus on your time with the child, it’s the only part you control.

DistrictDivorceCoach · 2026-03-11T01:34:15+00:00

Your life is better when your ex is thriving. If she is serious about someone and acting like a responsible parent, don’t get in the way of her rebuilding her life. If you guys are on ok terms, have the discussion.

Shineynewflipflops · 2026-03-10T23:11:56+00:00

Thinking as a judge- First, there needs to be a substantial, unexpected or uncontrollable change in circumstances that warrant a modification. Second, the modification needs to be in the best interest of the child.

Of course, you can make any modification that you both agree upon. However, children in homes with non-biological males are 40 times more likely to experience abuse compared to those living with biological parents

Outside-Jicama-8468 · 2026-03-10T22:58:02+00:00

See, in my opinion, I don't bring my kids around anyone I would date until something gets established. I don't need a long line of people in and out of their lives.

She on the other hand is already introducing her whole family to her new boyfriend / AP.

ExiledSage · 2026-03-10T22:26:57+00:00

It’s two years on, I would be open to revisiting.

Federal_Repair1094 · 2026-03-10T22:12:02+00:00

Is this only for you or is she going to follow this rule too?

MonarchistExtreme · 2026-03-10T22:11:05+00:00

it's usually not worth the fight trying to micromanage the environment in the other parent's home.

xcc2b3687 · 2026-03-10T22:27:35+00:00

I know you hate... I have 3 children... But what can you really do about it.

This is the part where you start to understand that there is no more partnership... They can do what they want ... Even with your children.

Just be the best Dad you can be ... Your children won't remember anything else

Title	Opinions please
Author	N8Perspicacity
Upvotes	2
Comments	20
Date	March 10, 2026 10:03 PM UTC (5 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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