First time doing my taxes this year as a single man in nearly 17 years, my new tax person asked if I still contributed to the IRA. I said I didn't have one, so she showed me where my ex started pulling $600-ish a paycheck for the last 20 months we were married. I never really looked at what my ex had done, just took her word for it. She lied about this of course in hindsight and told me she didn't qualify for a raise she was expecting, which is when I think she went rouge to keep the extra.

First, be smarter than me. Second, it's not enough to fight over now, but theoretically she perjured herself and could be charged. I won't pursue it (it's not worth my peace) but check you taxes guys, don't be a rube like me.

And hang in there, it gets so much better!