Invited to a house "party", don't know what to do

Most-Famous-Wasabi · 2026-03-30T21:33:04+00:00

>> I have never approached a girl in this kind of scenario so I'm totally clueless.

"Hey! I haven't met you yet! Who are you?"

Try to exude a warm, relaxed and self-amused energy.

== edit ==

The above is true, but let's go a little deeper...

I think that the most important thing for you to do is to be absolutely ok with fucking things up.

Look at your goals for going to the party: At some level you are viewing this as a high-stakes operation. And to some extent it actually is!

So take the pressure off: get absolutely comfortable that you will bomb socially. Be ok with the fact that your akwardness and anxiety will be noticed. People will see you for who you are actually being, and not for what you are trying to project.

So take a honest look at what you are trying to accomplish: trying to be seen as a cool guy, a good person to know socially, one of the cool kids etc.

Eject that goal entirely and adopt a new one:

Your new goal is to experiment. To try things out (and most probably fail because you are doing things for the first time.)

Treat the party as a training ground for future parties. This means that it's ok to make mistakes.

Do this because you know that "knowing" social skills comes as a pale second to *practising* and thus getting experience. Experience over time becomes skill.

Experiment with projecting warm, positive energy.
This will fuel your success.

Experiment with approaching without being invited. Take up social space.

Try to do this completely sober. Don't lean on alchohol to fuel your personality.

professionalfumblr · 2026-03-30T21:40:02+00:00

Just be yourself. That simple. If one likes you enough then wallah, hookup is possible. If it doesn’t happen, it is what it is, just do what you can to enjoy yourself. Never set the expectation of sex or you’ll be disappointed.

Discopotatoz · 2026-03-31T13:51:36+00:00

Don't fight the environment...if it's a drug and sex party half the work is done for you. The girls know what the vibe is and if they show up you go with it. I wouldn't worry too much about getting to know the girl. Be bold, tease and flirt. Escalate early and lead them. Don't get drunk or high but a little bit helps. Some of my best experiences happened in this exact situation. Don't think you can pull off a threesome in the bathroom? Think again and make it happen.

Warm-Fun5226 · 2026-03-31T00:05:15+00:00

There is no reason to treat this any different. be outgoing, get to know them, and then you will feel more comfortable with them. Once your are sure that thery are interested in you then you can make a move and if they reciprocate then you go In, just like that. Definitely don’t overthink it and if you got any other questions feel free to dm

cooliothecoolio · 2026-03-31T10:49:20+00:00

What do you mean you're invited to drink, eat and hook up with these girls? Is it a planned orgy?

Or you are just trying to hook up?

Chicagoj1563 · 2026-03-31T20:40:44+00:00

Don’t over think it. Just show up and try to be social from the beginning. Interact with people, push yourself to be social a little more than usual.

ExtraordinaryBeetles · 2026-04-03T06:23:37+00:00

My advice is, don't reinvent the wheel. Copy what the other people are doing.

Prestigious_Water336 · 2026-03-30T21:50:12+00:00

Just stick to normal game

Comment about the place,or situation

Introduced yourself

Make some small talk

Flirt

Sexually Escalate

Kiss

Then hint at going somewhere more private

Then you know what to do from here

Title	Invited to a house "party", don't know what to do
Author	MentalRain619
Upvotes	10
Comments	15
Date	March 30, 2026 9:28 PM UTC (3 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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