You are healing from a contentious divorce. Before the divorce, you were the rock of your immediate family and extended family. You were the high earner that was always there to help everyone.

Now you are going through divorce, your assets have been split. You’re paying child support and spousal maintenance. Your 401k has been decimated by QDRO. However, your own family member has the gall to ask you to lend them money. I barely restrained myself from doing something stupid. What would you do?