Gym crush got my hopes up then run them to the ground, still hope?

drewster23 · 2026-05-17T20:18:50+00:00

Talk to more girls. You're talking about catching feelings from a girl you talked to 5 mins whose not interested...

BrainPlasticity · 2026-05-17T20:44:21+00:00

The moment you develop a crush towards somebody, craving and attachment occurs, then when that craving or desire doesn’t get fulfilled, suffering occurs. All sense desires are like an itch that you want to scratch, but in this world, one has to learn to accept that it’s ok if all desires don’t get fulfilled.

Try to imagine if you’d have the same crush feeling towards her when she’s 90 years old. Realizing the impermanence of all things can help you transcend your thirst/craving for sense objects.

squidguy_mc · 2026-05-18T02:03:08+00:00

so you never talked to her before, then randomly approached her and after 5 minutes got her number? Why are you surprised she did not respond?

Jack26918 · 2026-05-17T21:48:25+00:00

Talk to more girls, but not at the gym- leave them alone. That's a basic custom. Maybe she ghosted you exactly BECAUSE of this.

Becominghim- · 2026-05-18T08:35:45+00:00

Okay so what you just did, do it another 20 times in different places. You’ll have 5 girls on a rotation and come back to read this post and realise you just lacked abundance

rich_god · 2026-05-18T21:00:17+00:00

You went way too fast for the number. You see her almost everyday, why do you need her phone number ? Talk to her a few times, become closer, then in one conversation you’re like « oh we should go to that cafe » or something and she’s like « yeah sure » and then you ask for the number because it makes sense for logistics. That’s why warm approaches like this work better than cold ones, because you don’t need to go as fast.

But good job on trying, that’s how you learn.

g_zl7 · 2026-05-21T15:22:38+00:00

I’m in a similar situation but haven’t approached yet (capacity for one at a time) and restraining myself from it while she’s embedded in my head. Best thing is to forget about the messaging and never remind her of ghosting you (unless you do it in a playful way after your first date). Give it some time (she’ll wonder why you’re not chasing when she sees you) and start from scratch with casual chats at the gym. If she responds to that then you can ask her to hang out after some time.

Accomplished-Pen7695 · 2026-05-17T20:40:51+00:00

your first mistake was approaching her

Title	Gym crush got my hopes up then run them to the ground, still hope?
Author	Moe_be_flying
Upvotes	3
Comments	36
Date	May 17, 2026 8:17 PM UTC (2 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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